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Sexy Time: Size Doesn’t Matter… Anymore


Much to the dismay of my male readers, I have to admit that size does in fact matter to us ladies. Sure, it isn’t the only component of good sex, but it definitely contributes. After all, the motion of the ocean doesn’t matter much if you can’t feel the waves!

But what many guys don’t know – and which some girls might not even know! – is that size problems go both ways; a guy can be too big just as easily as he can be too small. What do you do if your partner falls on either end of the spectrum?

Too Small

If he’s too small, there’s no magic pill to make him bigger (despite what your gmail inbox claims). You can make him feel bigger by trying positions that allow deeper penetration. Doggie style with your waist high (use pillows if it makes it more comfortable) and your chest lowered to the bed is a great angle for this. Spruce up missionary by resting your ankles on his shoulders (if you’re not flexible enough, just bend your knees and pull them up towards your chest). Trust me, a little (penis) goes a long way.

Also remember that penetration isn’t the only (or most) pleasurable sex act; indulge yourself in some oral or manual stimulation as well.

If changing positions or acts isn’t enough, you can try penis extenders. They slip over his goods like a condom but have extra material to add some length. I can’t imagine he would feel much through them, though, or that your man would really be in the mood after you made him feel self conscious about his manhood. But I’ve never tried them so I’m really not sure. Post a comment if you’ve ever tried these and let us know how it went!

Too Big

Being too big can be worse than being too small. It’s hard to enjoy sex if it hurts! If your partner is big enough to make sex uncomfortable, there are a few things you can try. First, lots and lots of foreplay. Your vagina expands when you become aroused, allowing him in with less resistance. Sex will also be less painful is you are properly lubricated, so use lube generously, even if you feel turned on enough.

Stick to sex positions that keep penetration shallow. Girl-on-top is great because you can control the speed and depth of penetration to avoid pain. Missionary can work too, but try to keep your legs close together and your pelvis pointed downward to keep his thrusts from going too deep. Most importantly, speak up! If something hurts, let him know. And f it feels good, definitely let him know.

Now that you have any size issues worked out, you can focus on improving how he uses the goods. Enjoy!