Sexy Time: Toys for Two

As our parents told us in a desperate attempt to keep us away from promiscuity – sex with someone you care about is the best kind of sex you can have. Turns out they were right… well, basically.

Gettin’ it on with someone you care about has all the ingredients that make for great sex – it means more than just getting off, you trust each other, you know what your partner likes and, most importantly, you can have fun without being self-conscious. But all this great sex sometimes comes with a downside: no one wants to admit it, but over time we get a little bored doin’ it with the same person over and over. That being said, even when you’re perfectly happy with what you’ve got goin’ on, sometimes it’s just fun to try new things! Spaghetti may be your favorite food, but after eating it every night, you might want to see what it’s like with meatballs.

Bad analogy? I tried.

In my experience, the key to a great sex life is some good old-fashioned adventure. The make-out, go down, have sex routine is nice occasionally, but the truth is that it does get old eventually. Adding a little spice to your bedroom routine is the key to a long and happy sexual relationship — whether it be going at it in risqué places (I’ll save that for another post) or trying out some fun toys.

The first thing you’ll need if you’re looking for some adventure is an open mind (and hopefully your partner has one too). A sex swing or some kinky bondage might not be for you, but how will you know until you try? If your sex life is reaching a lull, try out one (or all) of these toys and enjoy your new, passionate, anything-but-boring sex life.

Cosmo’s Truth or Dare: this is probably the easiest, cheapest, and least-intimidating step into the world of couples sex toys. You can even buy it at bookstores if you’re too shy to venture into a sex shop just yet. While this is technically not a toy, this game will give you a good excuse to have some fun. With truths ranging from masturbatory fantasies to streaking, and dares like “Pretend I’m a stranger. Walk by and cop a feel as subtly as possible,” this game is pretty much guaranteed to end in some sexy fun.

Vibrating rings are available not only at sex shops, but also at drugstores through brands like Trojan and Durex. They can be lots of fun, and the perfect ingredient to add to your otherwise-awesome sex. It’s worn around the penis during sex (or you could just hold it for those without a penis in their relationship) and it hits just the right spot while he thrusts away. The packages claim that the vibrations last about 20 minutes, but they’ve been known to last a lot longer than that. Coming in at under $20, they’re also a fairly affordable way to have some fun. Added bonus: the tightness of the ring will cause your partner’s penis to stay harder longer… and really, who wouldn’t want that?

Even if BDSM isn’t quite your thing, experimenting with blindfolds, handcuffs, bondage tape, paddles, or, for those who are a little more adventurous, ball gags, can be a good way to explore your kinky side. Be sure to use these with someone you trust, and develop some boundaries before you agree to be tied up, flogged, or gagged!

Not for the faint of heart, a sex swing, sling, or door harness could be for you. I’m not exactly sure how much flexibility is needed for one of these, but I know they look like a hell of a lot of fun!

I understand we’re all poor college kids here, but I know if I ever had the time or a couple thousand dollars to spare, I’d be trying out one of these. It’s specifically designed for tantra, but with those curves, you can just imagine the cool positions you could try out. And the bonus with the tantra chair is that it doubles as a beautiful piece of furniture. How cool is that? On the cheaper end of the spectrum, you can buy a love bumper or a lounge. But really, getting creative with a few pillows can produce more or less the same results.

With a little creativity and an open mind and there is no reason to let your sex life get boring. Just think of all the sexy possibilities!

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