When Friends Break Up…

So, I’m dealing with a really bad breakup right now. No, my boyfriend didn’t dump me – that would require me to have had a boyfriend in the first place. But my very good guy friend did dump his very serious girlfriend and now I’m left in the middle.

They have been dating for nearly a year and in that time I’ve grown quite close to the GF. We hung out a lot as a group and as things got more serious, I began to hang out with her independently. We’d see movies, do girl dinners and spend long hours at the library studying and making fun of her boyfriend.

And then last week, he up and broke up with her. She was shocked. I was shocked. We were all left with a lot of questions, mine being what I’m supposed to do now.

The breakup wasn’t messy – it’s not like my friend cheated – so I have no reason not to support my guy friend in his decision. If he was no longer in love with his girlfriend, who am I to take her side and give him the silent treatment? On the contrary, I support him; I know I wouldn’t want some guy to drag out a relationship with me just because he was afraid to end things. And, when it all comes down to it, he’s my really close friend and I love him no matter what.

But on the other hand, she’s my friend now, too. And my friend is hurting and needs people to lean on. And I don’t know if I can be that person. I don’t know if I have to take the side of my guy friend – who I was friends with first – and cut off all communication. I don’t know if their breakup means our breakup. I don’t know how he would feel knowing that I’m still hanging out with her, getting drinks with her, and eating broken-hearted cupcakes with her.

I don’t know what to do, but I know so many people have dealt with this exact scenario in the past. So tell me: what should I do?

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