"And then he was all, 'I don't know if I wanna be tied down right now...'"
Yesterday, I had a Skype date with one of my old friends from high school. It’s always fun to catch up with random high school acquaintances, but as I hung up after our chat, I was struck by the realization that all we had talked about was boys. That’s it! I heard all about her new boyfriend and how cute he is, and she asked about all of my boy dilemmas. Now, granted trading boy stories and dilemmas is always fun – it is something that girls bond over – it is by no means the most important thing going on in my life, let alone the only thing! So why is it something that I feel like I am constantly discussing?
I feel like nearly seventy percent of my daily conversations with my friends revolve around men. To be fair, I seem to be everyone’s go-to person for boy advice (sometimes I feel like I should start charging by the minute or something…), but still, even taking that into account, we as girls spend too much time worrying and over-analyzing the male species.
Now, don’t get me wrong; I am as guilty of it as any of my friends! It is one of our weaknesses as girls, to examine every text, chat, and voicemail for the smallest inkling of information:
“Wait, and what did he say next.”
“‘Let’s talk soon.'”
“Was there a period? An exclamation point?”
“No, there was nothing.”
“Hm, that’s a tough one.”
While I understand this need to analyze everything under a microscopic lens, I am tired of talking about boys all the time. There is so much more to me than my relationship status, and sometimes it can be easy to forget that.
So I am making the resolution right now: from this point forward, I am no longer letting the topic of guys dominate my interactions with my girls. Note I said dominate; there is no way that I would be able to completely eliminate boys from conversation completely (despite how badly I might want to sometimes…). It just means not letting my relationship status or the boy that I hooked up with last weekend define me or my relationships with my friends. There is so much more to me than that, and on our next Skype date, I am sure that we can find more interesting topics to discuss. I can’t wait to tell her about the paper that I just owned for my Political Science class, the really cool resume speaker that I brought in last week, and how she got this awesome internship for the summer!
Ladies, let’s not let anyone or anything define us but ourselves!
