Single. And Sick Of Talking About Guys

"And then he was all, 'I don't know if I wanna be tied down right now...'"

Yesterday, I had a Skype date with one of my old friends from high school. It’s always fun to catch up with random high school acquaintances, but as I hung up after our chat, I was struck by the realization that all we had talked about was boys. That’s it! I heard all about her new boyfriend and how cute he is, and she asked about all of my boy dilemmas. Now, granted trading boy stories and dilemmas is always fun – it is something that girls bond over – it is by no means the most important thing going on in my life, let alone the only thing! So why is it something that I feel like I am constantly discussing?

I feel like nearly seventy percent of my daily conversations with my friends revolve around men. To be fair, I seem to be everyone’s go-to person for boy advice (sometimes I feel like I should start charging by the minute or something…), but still, even taking that into account, we as girls spend too much time worrying and over-analyzing the male species.

Now, don’t get me wrong; I am as guilty of it as any of my friends! It is one of our weaknesses as girls, to examine every text, chat, and voicemail for the smallest inkling of information:

“Wait, and what did he say next.”
“‘Let’s talk soon.'”
“Was there a period? An exclamation point?”
“No, there was nothing.”
“Hm, that’s a tough one.”

While I understand this need to analyze everything under a microscopic lens, I am tired of talking about boys all the time. There is so much more to me than my relationship status, and sometimes it can be easy to forget that.

So I am making the resolution right now: from this point forward, I am no longer letting the topic of guys dominate my interactions with my girls. Note I said dominate; there is no way that I would be able to completely eliminate boys from conversation completely (despite how badly I might want to sometimes…). It just means not letting my relationship status or the boy that I hooked up with last weekend define me or my relationships with my friends. There is so much more to me than that, and on our next Skype date, I am sure that we can find more interesting topics to discuss. I can’t wait to tell her about the paper that I just owned for my Political Science class, the really cool resume speaker that I brought in last week, and how she got this awesome internship for the summer!

Ladies, let’s not let anyone or anything define us but ourselves!

Coupled. And Getting Hit On
Coupled. And Getting Hit On
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