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Spontaneous Sex: The Best Sex of All


Here’s a fun bit of information for all you “sex is way better when it’s with the one you love, blah, blah, blah” peeps.

Turns out, it’s not.
And, no, I’m not just saying that. I’ve got some stats to back it up!

As much as many of us would expect women to crave and adore the standard missionary position with their man in the same bed, for the same amount of time, night after a night—well, shockingly, many do not! A recent sex study found that the majority of married women would rather catch up on their reading or get extra sleep than have sex with their husbands. And an even greater majority of women (a whopping 81 percent!) complained their sex lives were way too predictable, based on location, position, time of day, duration and foreplay.


Sorry, dozed off there for a second. That sex routine is bor….wait for it….ing.
With reviews like that, it’s no wonder 62% of the women surveyed said they fantasized about having sex with somebody else.

Clearly, women in monogamous relationships are bored to death. It seems monogamy = monotony when it comes to what’s happening (or not happening) between the sheets. And maybe it’s the fact that it’s always happening between the sheets that’s the problem to begin with. Where’s the fun? The spontaneity? The excitement that comes with secretly sleeping with your TA in the stacks? Or having a little romp with that foreign exchange student on the roof of the student union.

Yes, making love is way different than having some good ol’ sex, but maybe that difference isn’t such a good thing after all.

Thoughts? Ideas to keep things spicy?

    Mel is the social media manager at StyleCaster. She's passionate about puppies, good food and finding the perfect Instagram filter. Some people tell her she has an unhealthy obsession with Chrissy Teigen and Ed Sheeran. But she thinks it's all perfectly normal and fine, thank you very much. Previously, she worked at Mashable, Glamour and Allure magazine.