You know how they say death and taxes are the only two certainties in life? Well I think there’s a third and it’s the break-up. Everyone deals with one at some point and, in a nutshell, it blows chunks. Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, it ain’t easy and sometimes, when you’re curled up in the fetal position with a puddle of melted ice cream next to your face, it feels as if the pain is never gonna go away.
But it does…
After countless sob sessions with friends, drunken “I’M SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE” nights out that end in tears (and usually vomit), and probing anyone who will listen for healing advice, you wake up one day and realize you are OK. You’ve moved on. You can do better than that asshat who never appreciated what he had anyway, dammit.
You just gotta get to that point. And we are going to help you. Below, the CollegeCandy writers share their best advice for dealing with a break-up. Bookmark it, print it, tape it to your wall, because one day, when you’re sobbing to the tunes of The Fray while poring over lovey dovey pictures of you and your ex on Facebook, you’re going to need all the help you can get.
Sammie – Fordham: Cut him out completely. Do not even have his number in your phone – GET RID OF THAT ISH. You can be friends later, but right now there is no reason why you should contact him. ESPECIALLY IN A TEXT THAT YOU SAY IS FOR SOMEONE ELSE THAT YOU SENT HIM “ACCIDENTALLY”!
Christie – NC State: BREAK UP WITH THEM AT THEIR PLACE. I can’t say this enough to my friends. Go to his place, because you can leave at any point you want to. If they are at your place, you might have to ask them to leave, which would be hurtful and awkward.
Nina – Michigan State University: DO enjoy a dessert that says “F**k Him” in icing on the top (True story – I have some great friends). DO NOT get jealous when he moves on. He will still have the same flaws with a new girlfriend!
Brittany – University of Saint Thomas: My honest rational? Delete him from your newsfeed, channel your anger/sadness into a good run, get your hair and nails did. Then watch ‘The Stepfather.’ Because that woman has it a lot worse than you do.
Ricki – University of Michigan: No hooking up with your ex-boyfriend. If your friend has to hold you back, fine, but do not even go there.
Meg – University of Delaware: Spite. The happier you are, the hotter you look, the more confident you are, the better you’re dressed- do it in spite of what just happened. The better you’ll feel about the breakup, and the more he’ll regret it.
Sarabeth – University of Texas: Since break-ups can get ugly, DON’T take anything mean he says to heart. Most likely, he’s just trying to hurt you.
Norah – Drake University: Diet and exercise. The path to mending a broken heart revolves around feeling content in who you are, and looking great, and feeling those endorphins will jump-start that.
Kim – Stanford: Don’t take everyone else’s advice just because they are telling you it is the right way to act. Your girlfriends love you, but they may not actually know whats best for you…even if they think they do.
Sara C – Fordham: Give yourself a solid week to wallow, if need be. But do something physical, like riding a bike, going to the gym, or going for a run, to sweat it out. You’ll not only get an endorphin boost from exercise, but you’ll be doing your body a favor, too. And if you want an extra kick in the rear, listen to Bob Dylan’s “Positively 4th Street.” Pure, unadulterated, gritty angst!
Alex – Lakehead University: Best piece of break-up advice, hands down: don’t drunk dial. In fact, completely remove his number from your phone. Case in point: my 19th birthday (woo hoo Ontario!) I ended up sobbing in a closet, drunk-dialing my ex-boyfriend and making very little sense. What little shred of dignity I had was gone.
Charlsie – Hollins University: After a break-up, do whatever you can to NOT post hundreds of Twitter tweets about it.
Cristina – Michigan State: Let it all out. Vent to your friends and give yourself an ALLOTED amount of time to heal, and then stop. Stop thinking about it, stop talking about it and keep yourself busy. Never waste time thinking about a guy who doesn’t know what he has when he has you. Also, instead of eating your feelings, exercise them away, because nothing is better than looking amazingly toned the next time you run into him, instead of looking like you’ve been crying over a bowl of cake batter for months.
Jessica – Delaware: I always say, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else!
Rachael – University of Miami: Chocolate, a hot shower, loud rock music, and awesome friends can cure anything, even a broken heart. Also, always remember that you’re better off now instead of being involved with someone who didn’t appreciate you or wasn’t right for you. You now know more about who you are and what you want, so you’ll find someone who will love and respect you the way you deserve.
Caitlin – University of Alabama: Do keep yourself busy to take your mind off things by hanging out with friends, doing fun things around your city, working, etc. Do not eat an entire pack of Oreos in one sitting because those 2600 calories will not help the pain of a break up, trust me.
Hannah – Assumption College: It is totally acceptable, in fact, almost necessary to indulge in a post break-up shopping spree. Treat yourself to some new clothes. Look better, feel better.
Alex – Florida Atlantic University: The best thing to cure the break up woes is to find a distraction–may that be diving into your schoolwork, creating the perfect resume, or even finding the infamous rebound. Nothing’s better than showing up to a party and having a piece of eye candy on your arm, all the while your ex is trying not to stare at you from the other side of the room. A piece of advice, don’t sweat your break up–simplify your life and enjoy the perks of being a single girl for a while.
What’s your biggest piece of dating advice?