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Since you’re currently on a website reading this, it’s probably a little redundant to say how much of our lives take place online nowadays. Suffice to say that except for the eating, breathing and sleeping parts, almost everything else you do can be done on the Internet, including meeting that special someone… or that’s what the commercials say anyway. But is online dating, especially at our age, really a good idea?
On one side, we’re the tech generation – why should we be stuck with using the same bar hopping/meeting someone in class/dreaded blind date set up that our parents and grandparents used for finding a date? With online dating you have the chance to actually decide if you’re interested in somebody based on something other than the “is he insanely hot or have I had too many tequila shots” method. You can look at a person’s interests, see bits of their personality, sometimes even find out what they’re looking for in a relationship so you can avoid that awkward talk later when you find out that he wants to be married before he’s 25 (run!). That would sure as hell save a lot of head- and heartache. With online dating you don’t have to rely on the right person being in the right place at the right time; you find each other at your own convenience. Plus, many online services now have matching software so they can you search beyond the surface to find things that you might like in someone.
It’s like a made-to-order BF! Right??…
But there is still something to be said for the old fashioned method – something that goes way beyond nostalgia. Sure, being able to pick out a guy who shares all of your interests sounds cool, but it can also be both limiting and misleading. Some of the best relationships I know are between people who are so not one another’s “type” and might not seem very similar, and yet the balance each other out. There’s also that little problem of chemistry. Most of us have had a pal in the past who is a great other half – you get along great, you make each other happy, but for whatever reason there’s no sexual chemistry. Picking out someone online means weeding out things you think you don’t like about people, but you might, in the real world, develop a taste for. It’s like surviving only on burgers (who hasn’t been there) – sure, you know you’ll always like the taste, but you’ll never take a chance on discovering something new and delicious that you never thought you’d like. And even though over 20 million people use online dating sites, I don’t actually know anyone under the age of 40 who has ended up in a relationship because of one.
Are you an online dater? Did you find someone special on the interwebs? Do you think it’s a great way of meeting new people? Or is it not worth the effort of finding that perfect profile picture? Duke it out!