[Everyone’s got a vice, a bad habit, something they know they need to change. Unfortunately, everyone also has a million excuses why they just can’t do it. Not anymore. Every month we will be following a different CollegeCandy writer as she takes on a personal challenge. This month we’re following Christie on her quest to stop gossiping. The first few days were rough. The 2nd week was full of excuses. And then she reunited with her BFF/gossip partner in crime. How’s she doin’ now?
This week was fairly boring, I will admit. It was mostly spent packing to move into my apartment, finally leaving the country and heading back to the city. Therefore, I haven’t really hung out with people nor had much time to get really involved in any sort of gossip.
I did, however, attend a job interview this week. The interview was going well, I was wowing her with everything I had, and then she asked, “Was there ever a time you just really didn’t get along with someone and had to be courteous toward them anyway?” Obviously, a job interview was not the place to go, “ohhhh girl, let me tell you,” so I just took a moment and smiled. This challenge has come in handy, it seemed. I told them I just didn’t get along with someone in high school, but had to be courteous to them because I didn’t want to cause a disruption in the classroom. There, nothing negative said about that person.
The old me – before this challenge – wouldn’t have left it at that, trust me. I most definitely would have used that to my advantage, adding at least one negative comment about her. Instead I seemed mature and collected.
In a way, this challenge has let me see how immature gossip and judgmental statements can be. So many girls are willing to label other women they hardly know as “sluts” or “bitches.” How many times have you looked at a girl in a mini-dress at the bar and called her a whore? I have, even though I was dancing right next to her on the bar. My friends have – and still do – and now it’s starting to annoy me. The new me. I just want to ask them if they’ve even had a conversation with that girl or know anything about her to warrant such comments. Besides, you never know who you will meet down the road. That girl you were mean to in class or talked badly about could be the head of your interview some day, and your career could depend on her. Stupid, mindless gossip isn’t worth burning any potential bridges.
Not only that, but do you want to be known as the mean girl? The girl who smiled in your face and then talked about you behind your back? Now that I’m more focused on what I say (and am not wasting countless hours gossiping) I’ve really begun to realize that I sure don’t. I would rather be the girl who always had something positive to say about people. And the past three weeks have taught me that being that girl really isn’t as hard as I thought.