Now, I am not one who can talk about making relationships work, because I don’t have the best of luck in that department. But I do know a thing or two about equal rights, equality in relationships, and being happy. So maybe you can see why I have a problem with this mentality:
“All men want to be treated like kings in a relationship, and I think if women don’t indulge that sometimes, their men are likely to stray and look for someone who can give that to them.” -Celeb chef Giada De Laurentiis in an interview telling the readers of Redbook how she makes her healthy relationship last.
I’m sorry, but I like to be treated like a queen too! With all this talk on keeping men happy, you have to wonder about how the woman feels in the relationship. What is stopping women from straying in relationships? I don’t know about any of you, but waiting on someone hand in foot isn’t really my ideal relationship situation.
I understand that there needs to be give-and-take in a relationship. It’s about being equals and treating each other with respect. And yes, treating your significant other as a king or queen is nice, but it’s creates problems on both ends. The person being doted on begins to resent the his/her significant other for being put on a pedestal. And the person doing the doting resents the person on the pedestal for not returning the same love and respect they deserve. In what century does that sound like a “healthy relationship”? To me, it seems like both parties would be “likely to stray.”
If a woman is happy doting on a man and letting “men be men” (thanks Patti Stanger for that one), then perfect, I’m glad they are happy and I hope that they both get fulfillment in their relationship.
But for me to be happy, I need to be in an equal relationship with no uneven treatment. And Ms. Stanger, maybe people should let women be women. I think men have gotten to be men for long enough and women should get the chance to do whatever they want with no questions asked. Oh and Giada, women deserve to be just as happy as men, and men should work just as hard to make sure the woman that they are in a relationship with doesn’t stray from them.
Giada isn’t too old to forget that women and men are now equal, is she? Don’t get me wrong, I too can appreciate traditional values. But the value from the ’50s that say I’m stuck in a kitchen making my husband whatever he wants…well for me, that one got thrown out a while ago.
Oh and does anyone have a coupon for PetCo? I think I might get started on my crazy cat lady image earlier than planned.
