Sex in the News: Digital Dicks

Attention all men: I don’t want to see a picture of your cock.

Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I am not a fan.  I appreciate its ability, stamina, even its appearance in small doses, but you are not going to turn me on by getting out your iPhone and sending me a picture of it. I don’t care how big it is or that it was just shaven. It’s just not going to work for me…or make that for most women.

After several incidents in the news about men sexting pictures of their shlongs (read: democratic congressman Anthony Weiner, rap-artist Kanye West and football star Brett Favre), Tracy Clark-Flory, a writer for Salon Magazine, conducted a short Twitter-based survey about women’s reactions to X-rated digital images. When she asked if cock-shots “do it” for any women, she was quickly met with responses like, “If by ‘do it’ you mean ‘send me to the toilet retching,’ then yes, they do,” and “Not at all. The penis is ugly. End of story.” Unsurprisingly, she concluded that the penis is one of the last male body parts that women want to actually see and that digital photos of male-members were often met with signs of repulsion. Although some women admitted to actually liking these risqué photos, one quickly cautioned that digital dicks should never be a sexting opener or a sharing device between uncommitted couples.

Tracy Clark-Flory infers that cock-shots were a lot like porn and blowjobs.  She concludes that some women love them, some hate them and that opinions are often extreme on either end. However, regardless of the strong opposing opinion, many men take a shot (pun intended) and send out a picture of their crotch. It is not just congressmen and celebrities that are fond of this form of sexting.  In fact, you don’t need to go any farther than Chat-Roulette to know that men love this type of digital flirtation.

Cindy Meston, co-author of Why Women Have Sex, believes that men do this because the reverse works for them. When women send them scandalous photos of their breasts or butt (note: rarely their va-jay-jays), it triggers “availability – an explicit, immediate sexual cue, which turns them on.” Cognitive neuroscientist, Ogi Ogas agrees with the concept of evolutionary sexual cues. As mentioned by Tracy Clark-Flory, Ogi Ogas says, “Men who send off penis pictures probably aren’t thinking at all, they’re responding to an unconscious, evolutionary urge likely inherited from our primate ancestors: male monkeys and apes routinely display their penises (usually erect) to females to indicate sexual interest.” Ogas points out that when men search for Internet porn, they look up “penises” nearly as often as “vaginas.” This may have something to do with the sexualized nature attributed to the member or the cultural significance of a “big dick.”

Regardless of the reason, we can easily infer that men are fascinated by their penises and may actually love them more than we do. If only we can get them to stop proving it to us. We get it, okay?

What do you think? Is there no such thing as a pretty penis? Do crotch-shots turn you on or would you rather wait ’til the bedroom for the explicit view? Sound off in comments and let me know!

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