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Sex in the News: Monogamy Was So Last Season


Is it just me, or does it seems like lately you can’t throw a condom in the air without hitting a cheater in the head. It seems like cheaters are everywhere these days and although it shouldn’t surprise you that countless acts of infidelity are happening everyday, you may be interested to know the various reasons behind such adultery.

A new study performed by researchers at the University of Guelph in Ontario in partner with those at Indiana University looked into various motivations for why couples commit infidelity. The study, involving 918 men and women in monogamous sexual relationships, found that those who are less confident in their sexual performance or are unsure that they are living up to their lovers’ expectations are nearly three times more likely to cheat. This anxiety about performance is a new and interesting addition to the many findings about cheating. The study also confirmed that risk-taking men or men that are easily aroused are also more likely to stray. Women, on the other hand, are more likely to cheat if they are dissatisfied with their current relationship.

Professor Robin Milhausen says that, “taken at face value, this research might seem to just support sexual stereotypes: Women are just concerned about the relationship and, for men, once a cheater, always a cheater, regardless of the relationship. But the caveat is that there are a lot of variants and factors that are not explained here that might impact whether one cheats… The research shows that demographic variables may not influence decision-making as much as previously thought- that personality matters more, especially for men.”

Overall, these findings showcase some light on possible reasons for why so many people commit infidelity. Although it is important to not overemphasize the meaning behind these conclusions, they may be valuable to help solve the cheating crisis and put people back in the monogamous bedroom again.

Have you ever cheated or been cheated on? What do you think the motivation is for most cheaters? Is it simply too hard to be monogamous?

"I make mistakes. It's what I do. I speak without thinking. I act without knowing. I drink so much I can barely walk...But I'm a fantastic lover, an amazing friend, and God knows I mean well." -SJP