I’ll admit, I love watching Say Yes to the Dress, Four Weddings and any show where they make insane wedding cakes. But the idea of actually going through with it all: The commitment to one person for the rest of your life, the lack of freedom, the planning of two lives becoming one..is my barf bag around here somewhere?
Sure weddings are fun to go to, and seeing people who are happily in love is great. But the whole publicly tying yourself to another person for the rest of your life, that’s the part I’m all set without.
It’s not like I watched my parents’ marriage fail or saw a lot of messy break ups when I was younger. Honestly, every single adult marriage in my life has been successful, it’s just not my thing.
Sure I’ve been in my fair share of relationships but they all start and end the same way. First he is thrilled that I like my space and don’t want to be with him 24/7, then slowly (but surely) he starts to freak out wondering what’s wrong with him and it just goes down hill from there.
Some people are just cut out to be single for the rest of their lives, and that is fine by me. I enjoy being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without checking in with anyone. Plus anyway, rings don’t really look good on my fingers.
And it isn’t like I’m shunning all relationships, the opposite actually. I’m one of those strange people who actually likes dating, well kind of..the bad ones make for funny stories. But if I magically find that certain someone, if I find someone who meets my long check list, then sure I’d want to stay in a committed relationship with them. But why do we need to put some kind of label on it, isn’t the fact that we love each other bond enough?
Now I promise I won’t go on a tangent about how much I hate labels, but while we’re on the subject… I’ve always felt that marriage is for the world to acknowledge that you are together. I honestly couldn’t care less if the world knows I’m with the love of my life; the only person I care who knows is the person I’m with (and if they don’t know then that would be an awkward conversation).
So yes, marriage is nice for some people– and for some people it’s their end-all goal– but for me? I’m set with kickin’ it solo or tying my life together with someone through a few simple words and a piece of paper.
(Oh and just because I’m not getting married, does not mean I’ll be a cat lady. Want proof? Check it out here!)