Finding a Boyfriend Through Online Dating, Week 2 [One Month Challenge]

So another week has gone by since I started this journey into the world of online dating, and I don’t even know where to begin. There are so many things I want to touch upon and so little time! For this post, I decided to break it down by questions I’ve come across while toying around with the OK Cupid site and meeting (yup, I said meeting) men from this site.  There have been some funny (and not so funny) bumps in the road since I started my new online life, but I’ve realized a lot of things too. Like how it’s almost impossible to really judge someone’s personality (or looks for that matter!) from an online dating profile or how you’re going to get inquiries from a lot of men that aren’t your type and this will lead you to get very discouraged and frustrated.
I’m still not 100% sold on the concept of online dating, but I’m getting more and more used to it as the days go on. I even downloaded the OK Cupid iPhone app, which is pretty useful and fun. I get notifications anytime I get a message from someone or when someone who is a good match for me is “checking out my profile”. It’s also super easy to use, and I’ve found myself browsing through some men when I’m bored in class.
It’s been a pretty active week in my OK Cupid world, and I have definitely come across some pretty great anecdotes and random thoughts. I thought I’d let you guys in on what has been going on with my dating life. I would also like to note that names have been changed to protect the innocent because I am not completely heartless.
That one time I realized that over 50 guys look at my profile but only 10 messaged me…
OK Cupid notifies you of every single member who looks at your profile, and I get a lot of views, but about 1/5 of them actually message me to say hello. What gives? I guess I need to realize that not every single guy is going to find me attractive or think my profile is funny. To be perfectly honest, I didn’t put that much effort into my profile so I can see why a guy would probably be like, “What is this girl’s deal?” I also realized that I look at a lot of guys’ profiles but rarely go ahead and message them hello. I guess I’m doing the same thing these guys are doing. This is a realization that I have overcome. See guys, I’m growing!
 That one time I got asked for a “body shot”…
I put up eight or nine pictures on my profile. Some of them are up close of my face and some of them are farther away because it’s a group shot with a bunch of my friends. The other day, I received a message from a guy asking me if he could “see a body shot”. A body shot? You want to do body shots off me? Oh, you want to see what I look like in a bikini/naked. I am not the skinniest person in the world (or the largest for that matter). I have a pretty normal build for a 23-year-old girl, and I am okay with how I look, but I am not about to send some creep a picture of myself just so that he can validate me. No thanks, bro.
 That one time the only guy I liked on OK Cupid was a clone of my ex-boyfriend…
As I was looking through some of my matches on OK Cupid, I stumbled across a photo that really caught my eye. Why you ask? Because this guy looked eerily similar to my ex-boyfriend—my ex-boyfriend that ripped my heart out, threw it in a blender, and then drank it like a smoothie. (Too much?) As I read this guy’s profile, I immediately hated him just because he looked so much like my ex. They even have the same profession and enjoy the same tastes in music. I did a double check to make sure that this actually wasn’t my ex because they were so eerily similar. But even so, I couldn’t stop myself from chuckling at all his answers to the profile questions. With each sentence, he started to remind me less of my ex and more like the guy he was. He was funny, he was charming, and he was about to get a message from little ol’ me! His name is Mitch, and I am really enjoying where things are going with him. We messaged back and forth and a bit, became Facebook friends (so we could really see what the other was about), and now we have begun texting!
And hey guys, guess what? We went on a date! We had a great first date getting a little frozen treat at my favorite fro-yo place. He was a perfect gentleman and there was not one awkward silence the entire time. Maybe that’s because I never shut up (seriously, ask anyone who knows me), or maybe that’s because we had some chemistry. And I’ll tell you something else, I didn’t think of my ex one time even though they could be twins. Now, I’m not saying I’m in love or even if we’ll go out again, but I can say that OK Cupid has led me somewhere. And it wasn’t to a state of crippling depression or an axe murderer’s house, but rather to a great date with a nice guy.
I think, with time, I’m learning that I was really judgmental of online dating websites. I am finding out every day that tons of my friends have actually tried it and some have succeeded in their trials. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone in this, and I also appreciate you guys commenting with words of encouragement and advice! Keep them coming!

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