Dear Tuffy Luv,
I want you to settle something for me and my friend. She’s upset with me because she says I’m hard to make plans with. She wants to make plans a week in advance just to go have dinner. I’m more spontaneous and I don’t like to make plans until right before they happen. Because what if something comes up? I also like to have my alone time which she says is rude if I choose watching TV over hanging with her.
So who’s right?
Well, you’re both wrong. So poo on you. Here’s why she’s wrong:
You’re your own person. You get to make your own schedule. Your friend wants to control how you decide to spend your time? Too bad. She can control how she spends her own and maybe a pet’s and that’s about it.
Here’s why you’re wrong:
You’re being totally inconsiderate. If you want to be friends with someone, you have to make plans ahead of time to show you respect THEIR time. You dig? Otherwise, it’s like you’re saying you only want to hang out with them when it’s convenient for you. And that’s screwed as floop.
So, like, compromise. Set hang out times a maximum of 4 days and a minimum of 2 days ahead of time. Everyone wins. Unless you two don’t really care about each other that much and would prefer to just argue and never see each other. In which case, like, whatever.
Hearts & Skulls,
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