What to Do When You Hate Your Perfect Boyfriend [Ask Tuffy Luv]

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I hate my boyfriend. Everything he does drives me crazy. And the worst part is he’s the nicest, best boyfriend anyone could have. I just don’t feel it anymore.

I don’t know what to do. We’ve been dating for three years and now we’re about to finish college and I just can’t stand it anymore. I just don’t see us growing old together. I care about him a lot but I’m starting to realize maybe I was never really in love with him. We were so young when we got together and now when I look at my future I just don’t see him in it. Add to that there’s a new guy in the picture. This guy, let’s call him AJ, asked me out and I said no, but ever since he asked me I can’t stop thinking about him.

I also don’t know if I should just jump right into another relationship? And I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend. I just don’t want to be with him anymore.

Not in love

Dear Not in love,

Yeah, you should break up with him. Look, the heart wants what the heart wants. And your heart doesn’t want him. Do it nicely, though, okay? Because it sounds like your dude is a good dude. Do us all a favor and don’t ruin him for the next girl.

Sit him down and tell him how much you care about him, but that you think the two of you want different things. Say you’d like to be friends, and that you know it’ll hurt him but you hope he can understand how much you care about him.

But don’t really expect to be friends. Because it IS going to hurt him. But you can’t spend the rest of your life lying that you love him if you don’t. It’s not fair to either one of you. Now’s the time, before you enter the real world. Give yourselves a fresh start.

And, yeah, don’t jump into another relationship. It’s instinctual to try to start up where you left off. Don’t fall for it.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv

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