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That Time I Convinced My Boyfriend to Use An Ice Cube as a Sex Toy

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Reddit is one of my favorite sites to lurk. While it definitely has hugely problematic elements, it’s also a great place to go for entertainment and knowledge. There are subreddits for everything from baking to intelligent history discussions to Photoshops of dragons mating with cars. One of my favorite subreddits is AskReddit, because some of the questions tend to provoke hilarious stories of dubious validity. Nevertheless, it’s a blast for me to read. I cannot for the life of me remember which thread I was reading, but one of the top comments mentioned inserting an ice cube in someone’s vagina.

Of course, I’d heard of using ice cubes as a means of foreplay, but actually sticking it in one’s vagina?  My first reaction was of abject horror, but I found myself idly thinking about it the other day and I started to become intrigued. Can I blame the hot summer weather for this? I don’t know, I’ll try. I asked my boyfriend if he would be willing to assist me with this ice cube experiment, and he was game. Oh, the perks of dating a sex blogger who was running out of ideas for her column.

Anyway, I had talked myself into doing this on a weekend, but I waited until a low-key Tuesday afternoon to go through with it. I figured it would be a delightful pick-me-up after a mind-numbing day at work. So I came home, freshened myself up and told my boyfriend to meet me in the bedroom with ice cubes. Initially, I was very antsy, squirmish and totally doubting my sanity. Nevertheless, I let my boyfriend begin teasing me with a cube, basically performing oral sex using the ice, rather than his tongue. The sensations were, unsurprisingly, startling and I was squeamish.

It only took a couple of minutes for me to acclimate myself and be amused with the fact that the ice was melting because my hotness was just too much for those frozen H2O molecules to withstand. The accompanying tingliness/numbness was kind of sexy, in a novelty “I’m-never-doing-this-again” kind of way. Then we decided to amp things up a bit with P-in-V, which honestly didn’t feel much different from normal to me. The only thing of note was that there wasn’t that uncomfortable “ouch” moment that usually occurs when he first entered me, so I guess there was some reduced sensitivity. My boyfriend thought it was cool how the temperature down there gradually changed from cold to warm, which is not an unusual perspective. Warming and cooling lube exists for a reason.

It was ultimately a pretty tame experience. I’m generally not one for introducing items from the kitchen into the bedroom, but I do totally approve of this. It’s not messy, there’s no chance of attracting anything gross down there, and the absurdity of it is kind of appealing. If you’re looking for a low-key way to spice things up, I’d totally recommend this. It’s kinky enough to be rejuvenating, but not so kinky that you’re likely to fall into any kind of a shame spiral after the fact. Also, I mean, it’s summer, and if you’re like me and your libido takes a bit of a hit in the summer because ugh, it’s just too hot, incorporating ice cubes will rectify that situation. I’d have to say, this was definitely more successful than that time I let my boyfriend lick mint chocolate chip ice cream off my stomach…

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