Georgia Tech Phi Kappa Tau frat guys probably should NOT be sending out emails with the subject line: “Luring Your Rapebait,” as instructional guides on how to get girls wasted so that they can sleep with them.
Those posts on Tumblr are always hilarious (and by hilarious I mean pathetic, disturbing and sad) because they slut shame rape victims by saying things like, “Oh she just got wasted at a party and regretted it,” meanwhile there are guys on this planet who go out of their way to get girls too drunk to consent so that they can “lure” them in. This email is as bad as it sounds. This headline is not baiting you in.
The email is intended to be a how-to guide on how to get Peterson’s (the writer) frat brothers laid. Essentially he wants his brothers to keep feeding girls alcohol until their judgment is impaired enough to want to dance with one of these guys, then the guys are to proceed to “grind their dicks” on the girls but before they finger her they MUST kiss because if you kiss a girl before you touch her genitals it’s not rape, apparently.
The fact that this email leaked is a good sign. That means someone in that frat knows this guy is an idiot. I don’t think this guy is a rapist (although who knows) and I don’t think he is encouraging rape, although he is using the language and mentality that can lead to rape. He is telling these guys that their only purpose at this party is to get laid, shaming those who don’t, he is telling these guys to aggressively dance on these girls so that the girls don’t really have a choice in how they are being touched, and he is asserting that these girls have to be shitfaced wasted, “If anything ever fails go get more alcohol.” This is the perfect scenario for women to get taken advantage of and for the men who may already have sexist notions and entitlement to a woman’s body to act on those misguided notions.
It’s disgusting. If a girl doesn’t want to sleep with you when she is sober then she DOESN’T want to sleep with you when she is drunk.
Step 1: If you aren’t trying to get laid, you aren’t cool.
“For anytime throughout the party… If you are standing by yourself at any point, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! If you are talking to a brother of your pledge brothers when there are girls just standing around, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!!”
Step 2: If it is before midnight have a conversation with the girl, unless she is already drunk.
“First, introduce yourself and get their name, ask if they are having a good time, and then ask if they want anything to drink. If they say yes, walk them to the bar and tell them what we have to drink. […] IF THEY ARE HAMMERED AT ANY POINT BEFORE MIDNIGHT, JUST SKIP THE CHIT CHAT AND GO DANCE.”
Step 3: Dancing is the key to getting laid. If a girl doesn’t dance with you shame her for it.
“Midnight or after, if you have been talking for awhile and they’ve had a couple drinks, ask if they want to dance. If you see an untalked to group or a solo girl, go up to her and ask if she wants anything to drink. If she says yes, get her a drink and then ask if she wants to dance. If she says no, ask her to dance. DANCING IS FUN!!!!! Always try to dance. If she does not want to dance and is with friends, say “aw thats no fun” (or something like that) and then ask one of her friends.”
Step 4: Let them grind on your dick.
“Grab them on the hips with your 2 hands and then let them grind against your dick. After that slowly alternate between just putting your hand across their stomach, but make sure don’t to go to high (keep it under the boob) or too low (dont try to finger her… yet). After a song, start putting your cheek on the side of her cheek. ALWAYS USE YOUR HANDS OR ARMS TO GUIDE THEIR DANCING in order to maximize your pleasure. If she starts putting her hair over her ear, THAT MEANS SHE WANTS A KISS. Therefore, try to give her a kiss on the cheek. They usually like that and nothing really should become of it. In the case, go for the neck kiss. If for some reason they aren’t down for a cheek kiss, just dance through it or say you are going to get another drink and see if they want one. And then repeat from the beginning.”
Step 5: No raping.
“Here is how to escalate: Try to twist her hips around to face you and dance front to front. FROM THERE THE OPTIONS ARE UNLIMITED! You can make-out with her (tongue on tongue), you can stick your hand up her shirt (not right away though), you can go for a butt grab (outside or inside the shirts), or use your imagination. ALWAYS START WITH THE MAKING OUT!!!! NO RAPING.”
Step 6: In summation
“1. Encounter (spot a girl or group of girls) 2. Engage (go up and talk to them) 3. Escalate (ask them to dance, or ask them to go up to your room or find a couch, depending on what kind of party) 4. Erection (GET HARD) 5. Excavate (should be self-explanatory) 6. Ejaculate (should also be self explanatory) 7. Expunge (send them out of your room and on their way out when you are finished. IF ANYTHING EVER FAILS, GO GET MORE ALCOHOL. I want to see everyone succeed at the next couple parties.”