Lily Allen is, as her people would call her, a wanker. After writing an anthem about female empowerment Lily went on a tirade about how she secretly hates thin women, thus making women the real problem with the patriarchy!
“But I don’t think men are the enemy, I think women are the enemy. I know that when I’m sitting in a restaurant and a really beautiful woman walks in, who’s skinny, I instinctively think, ‘Oh she’s really skinny and beautiful and I’m really fat and ugly.’ Every man I speak to always says they find that kind of woman gross, and they prefer a bit more meat on their ladies. So it’s more of a competitive thing. It’s weird. It’s just really unhealthy and we’re our own worst enemy. We should stop being so horrible to each other.”
I am not going to pretend I live in a fairytale world where women aren’t ever mean to each other or even deeply shallow but seriously, Lily? You can do better than this. Just because Lily Allen (and maybe some other women) has insecurities about her body (clearly) doesn’t mean that all women secretly despise each other. Furthermore what kind of woman runs to her male friends when she is insecure so that she can get them to say, “Skinny girls are gross!” What kind of shit is that? That’s the opposite of empowerment and precisely why we need feminism.
“Feminism. I hate that word because it shouldn’t even be a thing any more. We’re all equal, everyone is equal so why is there even a conversation about feminism? What’s the man version of feminism? There isn’t even a word for it. There’s no reason for it. Menanism. Male-ism. It doesn’t exist.”
How is everyone equal? How is everyone treated equal when she isn’t even treating everyone equal, she isn’t even treating herself equal by creating a beauty binary between thin and plump? Women make 77 cents for every dollar men make, even working the same job. Women are scarcely represented in politics. Women’s rights are constantly being eroded. But yes, we’re treated equally. All it takes is a brief look at the world around you to know that everyone isn’t treated equally. The fact the Lily Allen is saying this shit is why we need feminism. Men don’t need a revolution because society was designed to benefit them more than any other group. Men aren’t treated unfairly just because they are men. Yes, there are expectations placed on men and that sucks (expectations always suck). I’d hate to feel like I need to be stoic and tough all the time. Still, politically, socially and economically men have every advantage–so unless she means an emotional revolution, then she needs to quit it.
Here is everything Lily Allen doesn’t understand:
a) Female beauty isn’t decided by what men think of our bodies.
b) Pitting women against each other based on their insecurities exists solely because of sexism. The media industry tells us who we should be instead of being ourselves, perhaps that is why you are so insecure, Miss Allen?
c) You being insecure and “horrible” to other women doesn’t mean all women are insecure and “horrible” to other women—you do not represent all women.
d) Men don’t need a political movement because they are economically, socially and politically the most advantaged.
e) All women don’t actually hate each other “instinctively” for vapid reasons, I cannot stress this enough.
f) Having solely male friends and “not being like the other girls” doesn’t make you better than other women. It actually means that you are sexist by suggesting that women who behave a certain aren’t as “cool” as you.
g) There is no “ideal” female body type that isn’t contrived by the media and that doesn’t have negative affects for all women.
h) Believing “skinny” women are “gross” is just as hurtful, harmful and disempowering as believing “fat” women are “gross.”
i) Equality isn’t just about legislation, it’s about treatment, social stigmas, representation and gendered expectations.
j) For all of the above reasons this is why we need feminism.