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Practice the Art of Forgiving Yourself [Twenty-Something Rules]


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Have you heard of Humans of New York? If not, it’s the best blog out there (second best to CollegeCandy, duh). I ran across a quote on there recently and it touched my little heart. An old lady told the blogger it was “important to forgive.” The blogger then asked, “Who do you have the hardest time forgiving?” She responded saying, “Myself.”

It’s very true. We have a very difficult time forgiving ourselves. We’re constantly giving ourselves a bad rap, a hard time. Being unforgivable to ourselves is tiresome, overly critical and unfair. That’s why I’m going to make it my goal, for the sake of my well-being, to forgive myself for the mistakes I’ve made. There is no such things as perfection, and apologizing and not forgiving yourself for who you are is unforgivable silly talk!

You should try it too. Say, “Self, I forgive you.”

From one twenty-something to another, let’s lighten up.

Rule #71: Smile! You’re no longer in high school and a Volkswagen Beetle is no longer your dream car!

There’s always something to be thankful for.

Rule #72: Nobody cares about what you ate today.

“I had a bagel this morning with cream cheese, but then I only had baked Cheetos for lunch and some coconut water, so yeah I can have pizza for dinner if…”

Dearest sweet eaters of food, buy a food diary!

Rule #73: Honesty over pride. Every time.

Don’t let your pride get in the way of being honest to yourself and others. Humans have the tendency to think too highly of themselves to admit to something or tell the truth; even though the truth is forgiving and HUMAN. Keep this in mind: if your reputation is on the line if you risk being honest with yourself, the people you’re surrounded by are wrong. So admit to faults, be honest with others and go on with your day.

Rule #74: Genuine thirst can be easily mistaken for hunger. Stop snacking and drink a water.

Ate 15 minutes ago and you’re starving again? Go get a Smart Water and leave it alone. Who needs Atkins when you have common sense?

Rule #75: Oops, you’re your mother.

You reach a delicate point in your life where you begin to realize things. Remember when your mother used to harp on you for hanging your jacket on the kitchen chairs when you got home from school? She was so annoying about that, right?

A soft 10 years float by. And BOOM.

Your college roommate always throws her coat on the chair in the living room and you wouldn’t have a problem throat-punching her.

Rule #76: It’s always an intriguing thought that you have the same hours in a day as Beyoncé.

This is very important to remember when you can barely get out of bed to pour some milk into your Cinnamon Toast Crunch, got it?

Rule #77: It’s all in the details.

Small details matter in whatever you do. Thank you cards, a hug/hand hold, wishing someone happy birthday (even if it’s just on Facebook), remembering someone’s Starbucks order, gifts from the Target dollar aisle, or waving when someone lets you merge in traffic and saves you from thinking about murder. Sweet living is all in the details; the small things.


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University of Saint Thomas graduate. Minnesota-bred and happy to talk about the weather any time you’d like! Strongly believes any situation can be bettered by a slice of generously buttered toast or Phil Dunphy. Would get arrested to touch Justin Timberlake’s face. Always trying to be a better person by not wishing horrible karma on people driving slow in the fast lane. Hear more: @twitter @instagram