For, I don’t know, my entire life, I’ve been told “do unto others as you would have done to you” is the golden rule. If there’s some other golden rule floating around the interwebs please let me know, because if I’ve got the golden rule wrong, than I’m basically useless. But for now, let’s assume I’m right.
Now, for the most part I’m very happy and proud of my gender. We’ve overcome glass ceilings and “WE CAN DO IT!” but there are other times when the things other women do to men drive me insane.
This is where the golden rule comes in. If a man, say, got married and then a month later ran off with his wife’s best friend, women would be outraged. As they should be. But I’ve heard multiple stories where this is the case. And for every nice guy with a fedora who thinks he’s owed sex (see BGB #10), there’s a genuinely great guy following a girl around like a puppy (for reference see Ted Mosby in the “On the Hook” episode of How I Met Your Mother). My advice to these women? Tell men exactly what you want from them. Do unto others, yo. Don’t string a dude along for attention or whatever it is you’re getting from him.
I don’t know how many of you watch Big Brother. It’s my total guilty pleasure show. It’s like The Real World meets Survivor. It’s super addicting, but I digress. There’s a dude on the show named Caleb. He calls himself “Beast Mode Cowboy.” It’s safe to say Caleb seems massively, as the french would put it, doucheyyy.
Caleb has found himself attracted to a girl in the house named Amber. He is SO enamored by Amber that he risked himself being nominated for eviction to make sure she was safe, so basically he almost threw away $500,000 for this girl. While this by no means means that Amber should date him or love him or anything, she should tell him what she wants. Because right now she’s flirting and confiding in him and egging the situation on. She even told him, “If you eat a pickle (Caleb’s least favorite food) I would go on a date with you.” So what does Caleb do? He eats the pickle.
Here’s the other thing about Caleb, the entire cast of Big Brother knows he would do anything to keep Amber safe in this game. She’s leading him on solely for safety in the house. I don’t watch live feeds, but as far as I’ve seen she has never straight up told Caleb she’s not interested. I mean, it’s fairly obvious to everyone BUT Caleb. But at least she could do the psycho stalker a favor and end it for good. Do unto others!

Bold Girls aren’t afraid of confrontation. They aren’t afraid to go after what they want, or don’t want. And they sure aren’t afraid to tell a dude, “No thank you.” Because it’s pretty bitchy to lead a guy on.

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Molly is a senior journalism/English major at a school you haven’t heard of in a state you haven’t heard of. She’s obsessed with Chandler Bing, English bulldogs, and cheese. Follow her on twitter @mollymahannah, or check out her website accordingtomolly.com.