The Virgin Diaries: Don't Be Afraid of Being a Slut

This week an article titled I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity, and I Wish I Hadn’t on xoJane was circulated by a ton of people I follow on social media. Someone even felt that reading it was so pertinent to my life that they sent the link of it to me via text. Clearly I had to read it, so I did. And it opened my mind to a possibility that I never thought of.
If you haven’t read the article, I’ll sum it up for you. In a nutshell, Samantha pledged, at the tender age of ten, that she would save herself for marriage. If you remember my first post classifying the types of virgins, you’d type her as a Sanctified Virgin. And miraculously, she did it! The first time she had sex was with her husband on her wedding night. She expected angels to sing and for the pearly gates of heaven to open up for her accomplishment. In reality, no divine beings showed up to applaud her and she felt horrible about it. For two years she hated sex with her husband.
I always imagine that relations with my husband are going to be the best ever. So what was the deal with her? Samantha’s problem was that too much of her identity was attached to being a virgin, and she was embarrassed the day after her wedding night when everyone knew she wasn’t a virgin anymore.
I understand where her discomfort and shame stemmed from, but, uh-uh girlfrannn! That won’t be me, and you should not let it be you! From one virgin to another (if anyone reading this happens to be one), do not be afraid of sex! Obviously you’ll have some reservations about it, but don’t be afraid of the idea of it. It’s a natural, healthy and important part of relationships.
Beginning your sexual activity doesn’t bring from zero to slut the instance it happens. So don’t think that people are going to think that you’re a whore once you find someone you want to be intimate with. Go ahead gurl, get it on!

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