Guys act like girls are so hard to read, but it’s not just us. Trying to figure out a guy’s intentions is like trying to read Chinese. While every situation is different, these signs are pretty clear indicators that a guy is only interested short-term.
1. You Only Talk When You’re Trying to Meet Up
Does he take an hour to respond to a text where you ask how his weekend was, but when you ask what he’s up to that night, he responds quickly? While you might think it’s a good sign that he wants to see you, it’s a red flag if you never talk just to talk. Also not a good sign if his texts usually come at 2 AM on weekends.
2. Alcohol Is Usually Involved
Maybe you hang out sober sometimes, but hooking up tends to occur after you’ve both had a few drinks. It could be that you meet up at a party or hit a happy hour together, but if he can’t make a move without help from his friend Jose, you should throw him away anyway.
3. You’ve Never Gone on a Date
Watching a movie at his place is fine and dandy, but if he’s genuinely interested in getting to know you, he’ll want to get to know you outside the bedroom. Dates don’t have to be stuffy or expensive. Chances are he doesn’t want people asking questions.
4. He Dashes in the Morning
After a sleepover, he’s not trying to cuddle, chat, or even grab a coffee with you. He just wants to get dressed and get out of there.
5. You Know Little About Him
If most of the information you know about him comes from stalking his social media, you might need to reevaluate this relationship. A guy who only sees you as a hook up doesn’t introduce you to his friends, talk about his family, or let you know about what he’s into…and also doesn’t really care about your interests.
6. Seeing Each Other Unplanned is Awkward
When you run into someone you know at the library or dining hall, you should be able to say hi. He’s not only not excited to see you, he tends to avoid you or rub you off with a simple “Hey.”
7. His Social Media Activity is Non-Existent or Over the Top
A player will go with one of two extremes. A: He likes all your Instagram photos, Facebook statuses, and favorites all your Tweets…but he also does this with several other girls. B: He leaves absolutely no trace so none of his hook ups know whose profiles he’s checking out. If he’s interested in you long-term, he’ll try to show interest while still playing it cool.
8. He Avoids a DTR Talk
If you’ve been hooking up for a couple months and he’s never brought up a talk about exclusivity, it’s probably because he doesn’t want it. When you bring up the topic, he’ll try to change the topic or make excuses. Finding out where you stand shouldn’t be like pulling teeth. Say adios to the loser.