College is notoriously seen as a time when you can (and should) make a lot of mistakes. You should take that weird class. You should go to that party even though you have an early class tomorrow. You should wear those zany pants. You should fill a water bottle up with booze and sip it in class.
But when it comes to matters of the heart, I think there’s a gray area. Yes, dating a few of the wrong people is great for self-awareness. Sure, you can grow from a broken heart. But here’s the thing: No one deserves to find herself in a string of the wrong relationships, hurt over and over by lame ass guys who don’t know how to treat a women. Agree with me? Then heed my advice and run the other way when you encounter any of the following.
1. The ‘Netflix and chill guy’
If a guy keeps telling you he wants to “take you out” and “go on a date” but happens to schedule every single “date” at his place…..yeah, he’s a liar. Look, there’s nothing wrong with a relationship that involves less dating, more uh, sleepovers, but that’s only the case if both parties don’t want anything more than a few hookups. The issue here is that guys who do this are usually trying to play you. If he pretends he wants to date you but can never take you dinner, he’s probably not all that honest about his intentions.
2. The ‘changes in front of his friends’ guy
If he’s super sweet to you when you’re alone — you know, pulling out your chair, telling you you’re beautiful, holding your hand — but totally ignores you and/or treats your like dirt behind closed doors, he has some serious growing up to do. And you don’t need to stick around to see that.
3. The ‘hits on other girls in front of you’ guy
I know, I know. This one shouldn’t even need to be stated, but you’d be surprised by how common it is. If you’re seeing someone who constantly makes passes at other people but then tells you that you’re the only person who actually means something to him….he sucks. You deserve so much better.
4. The ‘I don’t want to introduce you to my friends’ guy
Dating someone while trying to keep him away from your circle can be exhausting – and if the reason you’re trying to keep him under wraps is that you worry he’ll try to get with one of your friends….well, you should probably hide him from yourself too.
5. The ‘won’t let you talk to other guys’ guy
Look, there’s a normal amount of jealousy in any relationship, but no one has the right to control you to the point where you aren’t allowed to have totally platonic relationships with other guys. If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who does this, don’t think of it as flattering or cute. If he crosses a line with his jealousy, you might want to rethink things.
6. The ‘anger issues’ guy
No. Just no. I don’t care how many times he apologizes. If he’s ever gotten angry to the point that you’re actually afraid for your own safety, please, please take care of yourself first and do what you need to do.
7. The ‘you need to lose weight’ guy
Or the “you need to gain weight” guy. Or the “you need to wear more makeup” guy. Or the “you need to wear less makeup” guy. The point is, your body, your rules. Anyone who make you feel bad about the way you look isn’t worth your precious time.
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