Unfortunately, I have not yet mastered the art of complete mind control and therefore cannot outright force someone to fall in love with me. However, there are several things which can be done to help the process along. Whether you are in a relationship, casually dating, or even just crushing on a guy these tips are guaranteed to take your relationship up a notch.
1. Touch Him
The more you can casually touch your guy, the better. This is his cue that you are interested. Even if he already knows, it’s a turn on. Try touching him in unnecessary and unexpected ways. For example, rather then asking for him to give you the keys in his back pocket, reach in and grab them yourself. If that move is too ballsy for you, ask him to pass them to you, but make sure that your fingers brush against his as he does.
2. Look Into His Eyes
People who are in love look each other in the eye more than people who are not. You can utilize this information by making as much eye contact with your beau as possible. Research shows prolonged eye contact is so powerful it can make even complete strangers fall in love. Use this to your advantage!
3. Do What He Does
They say opposites attract, but more often like attracts like. Take advantage of this by subtly copying his body language. You also can start to emulate his style. Trust me, this works. Just don’t take it too far and cut your hair like him or anything crazy like that.
You know what is better than listening to somebody extremely interesting talk? Talking to someone who is interested in you and your life. Listen to him intently. Act as though you truly care about what he is telling you (even if it bores you to tears) and watch how much more excited and engaged he gets. This will make him like you and think you have a great personality.
5. Say His Name
Everyone loves the sound of their own name because it’s part of what makes you, well, you. Every time you say his name, it will give him a small rush of endorphins which he will associate with being around you. This is also why being striped of your name and only referred to by number can have such a dehumanizing effect.
In his revolutionary book How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie states, “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Put this knowledge to use.
6. Get Excited
For me, the best part of getting home from a long vacation is seeing my dog. He is always super excited to see me and I therefore am excited to see him. Emotions are contagious; the happier you are to see him, the happier he’ll be to see you.