Getting your heart broken hurts worse than having period cramps and no chocolate.
It could have been your crush in middle school who rejected you or maybe it’s from a longtime relationship in your adult days, but chances are you’ve gotten your heart broken before. There’s no way to sugarcoat a broken heart — that sh*t hurts; let’s look on the bright side though. Once you heal — and you will heal — you’ll be able to look back at the experience and feel gratitude. That’s right. You’ll actually be thankful that you went through it and you might even recognize some advantages of having experienced heartbreak. Here are 10 reasons you should thank him for breaking your heart. Let’s get into it!
1. You’re no longer wasting your time.
If it’s not the real thing, then it’s not the right thing. No matter how much you love someone, it doesn’t mean that they have to reciprocate it. Unfortunately, you’re just now realizing that they weren’t in it the same way that you were, but at least you are no longer wasting your time being in a one-sided relationship. Remember, the goal is forever. A lifetime.
2. You realize just how loved you are.
The pain you experience from heartbreak allows the people who really love you to comfort you and help you realize just how loved you really are. When things first happened you probably felt like there wasn’t a soul alive who loved you, but I’m sure you learned that you were wrong about that. Experiencing heartbreak will definitely show you who is really in your corner and how much they love you.
3. You can see the signs of a failing relationship from a mile away.
Things between you two may or may not have ended on the best terms, but experiencing this heartbreak will definitely allow you to see signs of relationship failure in your next relationship a lot sooner than you did this time. Experience is the best teacher and you’ll be feeling like a pro once you’ve worked through the pain and overcome the heartache.
4. You realize how bad ass you actually are.
You’re a pink starburst, remember? Experiencing heartbreak will force you to stand face-to-face with yourself. Hopefully when you do that you’ll see what I know is there–a bad ass. A beautiful bad ass at that. Never let losing a partner–no matter how in love you were–make you feel like you’re not as amazing as you truly are.
5. You’re stronger.
Period. You’re a lot stronger from this experience. Heartbreak takes a lot of strength to get through. It takes even more strength to be able to see the beauty in an ugly situation. You’re an ox!
6. You’re more comfortable with being alone.
Being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. After experiencing heartbreak and recognizing how much of a beautiful bad ass you are, spending time with yourself feels great. When you’ve been in a steady relationship for a long period of time, you don’t get to appreciate being alone as much as you get the chance to now.
7. You’re patient with finding love again.
After going through a heartbreak, you’re more than likely in no rush to fall in love again. Hopefully, you still have hope that you’ll fall in love again, but you’ll be patient about it. Patience is good for anybody and everything. Know to exercise patience while you wait for the real thing is definitely something to be thankful about.
8. You know what you’re looking for.
Along with being patient with finding love, you’ll know what it is you’re looking for based on what you did or didn’t get out of this last relationship. It’s like dress shopping when you already know what shoes you’re trying to pair the dress with. You’ve got a little heads up and insight on what you should be looking for to make the perfect match.
9. You’ll appreciate the real thing so much more now.
When you find love, you’ll appreciate it even more than you did your last relationship. I know you might not think that’s possible, but watch real love blow your mind. Trust the process. Having your heart broken just makes finding the real thing that much better for us. Be patient, know what you want, keep the faith, and watch it manifest itself.
10. You got a chance to try love on for size.
If nothing else, be thankful that you got a chance to try love on for size. If your heart was broken by someone, it’s safe to say you loved them. That’s not a bad thing. Depending on how badly you were hurt, this might not seem like something to be thankful for because you may feel like they didn’t deserve your love, but be positive. Some things are seasonal, plain and simple. At least you got to enjoy it while it lasted.
The best is yet to come. Guard your heart, but get back out there and find what you’re looking for.