Most people would probably say that you should NEVER be friends with your ex, but I completely disagree. There are two things you must be sure of though if you’re going to be friends with an ex, 1) you can NEVER have sex with them again and 2) you need to be emotionally stable enough to establish a friendship without any type of other strings attached or desires to get them back – yes, it’s possible. If you can guarantee yourself those two things, being friends with an ex will be beneficial and a piece of cake! Here are 10 reasons to be friends with your ex. Let’s get into it!
1. Being friends is a lot easier than being enemies.
Hating someone is hard work. It takes a lot of effort to stalk him and his new girlfriend on social media. It takes a lot of energy to keep bringing up all the sh*t he did every time you talk to your girlfriends. It’s just a lot of work to be a bitter bitch (yes, men can be bitter bitches too). Choosing to remain friends and let the past go is a lot more satisfying in the long run. Trust me.
2. You have mutual friends.
When you two break up, you make your friends go through this awkward “whose side am I on?” battle. It’s not fair to them. When you two are able to separate and still remain friends, you don’t have to ask your friends to choose between the two of you … and you don’t have to miss out on group trips behind a bad breakup!
3. You’re mature enough to handle it.
You got this. You’re strong enough to handle being friends with your ex. Period, point blank.
4. You made memories together.
Life is too short to hold grudges. You and your ex share inside jokes and countless memories that aren’t worth throwing away because one of you is upset with the other right now.
5. You have to see each other anyway.
Chances are that you two will have to see each other pretty frequently. I mean, maybe if you live in a huge city you won’t have that problem, but for most of us–we’re bound to run into our ex when we have a night out on the town or even on a trip to Walmart. It’s best to remain friends so that these run-ins don’t have to be so awkward.
6. Your family has established a relationship with him/her.
Just like with your mutual friends, when you and your ex break up, the family feels like they have to break up with them too. Children aren’t always so good about understanding why all of a sudden you’re never with your ex when you come around. This is extremely awkward for you–especially if you two spent any holidays together. When you remain friends, you can still invite your ex to a cookout or Christmas dinner.
7. You know too much about each other.
When we get upset about being hurt by our ex we forget how much we appreciated them during the relationship and how comfortable we were around them. Your ex knows you really well. They know a lot about you and I’d rather know that that kind of information is being held onto by a friend not an enemy. Things could get ugly!
8. You can establish a genuine friendship with one another.
When you two move on without being enemies, you establish a deeper friendship. You have each others backs when it comes to new relationships. You lean on each other when you need advice from someone who has your best interest at heart. You can step in as a date to the office Christmas party if necessary. Ultimately, you’re able to really connect as friends.
9. You love them.
Admit it. You don’t have to be in love with them – in fact, this won’t work if you still are in love with them. Nevertheless, you have love for them. At one point in time they were everything to you. Just because you two couldn’t work out like you might have wanted doesn’t mean that your love for them disappeared. Instead of lying to yourself about how you feel about them, establish a friendship with them. You don’t have to be best friends, but at least be cordial enough to check on one another every now and again.
10. You don’t know what the future holds.
I’ll say it since no one else will. You never know what the future holds… you two could possibly be soulmates who just weren’t ready for each other the first time. When you take the time to establish that friendship now, if the cosmos align in the future you two won’t be afraid to give things another chance.