Some things are just better when they’re fully matured.
Dating an older man is a smart decision, but still there are some things to know before getting into a relationship with a man who is older than you. With any successful relationship, it will take a lot of work and effort–but when dating an older man, strategy needs to be involved. You can’ t approach this relationship with the same adolescent mindset we approach relationships with these days. In other words, you gotta come correct. Here are 11 things you should know before dating an older man. Let’s get into it!
1. He’s more experienced than you are, so he might seem like a know-it-all.
Although he may come off as a bit of a know-it-all, take advantage of the opportunity to gain some knowledge from someone who’s experienced things you have yet to experience. Knowledge is infinite so even if things don’t last between the two of you, you’ll still leave the relationship with something useful.
2. He’s much better in bed, which might make you feel like you’re lacking some serious skills.
For some odd reason, a lot of us millennials believe we know a lot about sex – granted, some of us do. However, none of us would be here today if it weren’t for that old school love makin’ our parents used to have. Face the facts, one of the best and scariest parts of dating an older man is finding out how little you actually know about making love. Anybody can f*ck, but making love takes skill.
3. He’s financially stable, but be careful about coming off as a gold digger.
When dating an older man, one thing that is confusing is how much asking or gift receiving makes you look like a gold digger. I still have yet to find a real answer to this, but I’d say the rule of thumb is to never ask for things and to always be grateful for whatever you receive. Also, let him know that you’re capable of taking care of yourself.
4. He’s wise and charismatic, so your confidence level has got to be through the roof.
You can’t be meek when dating an older man. Although you won’t be in the forefront often, when you are you have to be able to let those looking at you two that you can handle being his women regardless of how much older he is than you. Trust me, they’re doubting your capabilities. An older man is wise and extremely charismatic. Always carry yourself with style and grace (and little bit of attitude) to assure him that you can handle the ride.
5. He believes in old school love, so leave the games behind you.
Still playing games? “Ain’t nobody got time for that!” If you’re dating an older man, you need to be ready for the real thing. Older man believe in that old school love that many of us millennials don’t even think exists. If you’re not wanting a committed, long-term relationship, then dating an older man probably isn’t for you.
6. He’s romantic, which will require a lot more out of you than you think.
Date night will never be the same. Being that he believes in that old school love, he will be romantic beyond your imagination. This will require a lot out of you. If you’re anything like me, you don’t really know how to properly accept compliments and you probably aren’t very good at receiving gifts. When dating an older man you will have to know how to communicate how much you appreciate his efforts and you’ll have to get used to being romanced.
7. He knows where he’s going in life – get with it or get lost.
If you have no direction in life, dating an older man is not with you. He’s ambitious, driven, and at this point, established. He won’t have time for your fluid concept of what you want to do with your life. He won’t mind if you know where you’re going, but you haven’t quite reached the goal yet–but he won’t just let you blow in the wind. Just make sure you let him know that you’re not a lost puppy.
8. He can control a room, but he’s not the life of the party…and you won’t be either.
As mentioned earlier, most older men are very wise and charismatic individuals. Naturally, people will like them and they will gain much control of any room they walk into. Although he will be acknowledged by many people, he will gracefully stay out of the spotlight. Much like Leonardo DiCaprio‘s character from The Great Gatsby. On top of him not being the life of the party, you certainly won’t be either. When dating an older man, you better know how to get attention without being the wild girl on the dance floor.
9. He’s someone you can depend on, but he’s not your daddy.
It’s an amazing feeling to know that this older man is someone you can depend on. He’ll listen to you, he’ll care about your feelings, and he’ll provide for you. What you have to do is be grateful that he can do these things for you, but remember that he is not your father. Don’t make him feel like he is. It’s very important to make him feel older than you without making him feel old.
10. He has life figured out, which also means his ways won’t change for you.
Okay, obviously no one has life all figured out, but the older man has a pretty good idea of what it takes to survive life and because of that he will more than likely be set in his ways. He’s been going about his version of ‘how life works’ for quite a while now and it’s not likely he’ll change that up for someone who is younger than him. This could show that he is a little stubborn, but honestly… “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”
11. He gets better as the years go by. Period.
Just like with all great things in life, men get better with time. If he’s this great now, just imagine him in 15 -20 years. Older, wiser, and a whole lot finer… yes please!