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Amber Tamblyn Shares Sexual Assault Story to Show Just How Awful Donald Trump’s “Locker Room Talk” Is

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Amber Tamblyn Sexual Assault

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Donald Trump had quite a weekend even before last night’s night tumultuous debate. The GOP candidate was publicly chastised Friday after a sexually aggressive audio between Access Hollywood‘s Billy Bush and Trump went viral online. The pair were lewdly discussing a woman’s body when Trump began to describe how he tried to “move on her” but was unsuccessful.

“I’ll admit it. I did try and f*ck her. She was married. And I moved on her very heavily,” he said, before he proceeded to explain how he gropes women because he’s a “star.”

“I’m automatically attracted to beautiful [women]—I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star they let you do it. You can do anything … Grab them by the p*ssy. You can do anything,” he said.

Despite how indefensible, Trump still tried to boil them down to insignificant “locker room banter.” Because when you say things in private, it somehow makes them acceptable.

Many have come out against the video — including Trump’s running mate Mike Pence — but Amber Tamblyn’s words put the incident into prospective. The 33-year-old actress revealed a personal sexual assault story on Instagram right after the tape went viral, detailing an aggressive run-in with an ex at a concert.

“I need to tell you a story. With the love and support of my husband, I’ve decided to share it publicly,” she begins. “A very long time ago I ended a long emotionally and physically abusive relationship with a man I had been with for some time. One night I was at a show with a couple girlfriends in Hollywood, listening to a DJ we all loved. I knew there was a chance my ex could show up, but I felt protected with my girls around me.”

She continued, “Without going into all the of the details, I will tell you that my ex did show up, and came up to me in the crowd. He’s a big guy, taller than me. The minute he saw me, he picked me up with one hand by my hair and with his other hand, he grabbed me under my skirt by my vagina— my p*ssy?— and lifted me up off the floor, literally, and carried me, like something he owned, like a piece of trash, out of the club. His fingers were practically inside of me, his other hand wrapped tightly around my hair.”

Tamblyn then explained how the rest of the night “was a blur” that she can’t remember.  “That part of my body, which the current Presidential Nominee of the United States Donald Trump recently described as something he’d like to grab a woman by, was bruised from my ex-boyfriend’s violence for at least the next week. I had a hard time wearing jeans. I couldn’t sleep without a pillow between my legs to create space. To this day I remember that moment. I remember the shame. I am afraid my mom will read this post. I’m even more afraid that my father could ever know this story. That it would break his heart. I couldn’t take that. But you understand, don’t you? I needed to tell a story. Enjoy the debates tonight.”

I need to tell you a story. With the love and support of my husband, I've decided to share it publicly. A very long time ago I ended a long emotionally and physically abusive relationship with a man I had been with for some time. One night I was at a show with a couple girlfriends in Hollywood, listening to a DJ we all loved. I knew there was a chance my ex could show up, but I felt protected with my girls around me. Without going into all the of the details, I will tell you that my ex did show up, and came up to me in the crowd. He's a big guy, taller than me. The minute he saw me, he picked me up with one hand by my hair and with his other hand, he grabbed me under my skirt by my vagina— my pussy?— and lifted me up off the floor, literally, and carried me, like something he owned, like a piece of trash, out of the club. His fingers were practically inside of me, his other hand wrapped tightly around my hair. I screamed and kicked and cried. He carried me this way, suspended by his hands, all the way across the room, pushing past people until he got to the front door. My friends ran after him, trying to stop him. We got to the front door and I thank God his brothers were also there and intervened. In the scuffle he grabbed at my clothes, trying to hold onto me, screaming at me, and inadvertently ripped off my grandmother’s necklace, which I was wearing. The rest of this night is a blur I do not remember. How I got out to the car. How I got away from him that night. I never returned for my necklace either. That part of my body, which the current Presidential Nominee of the United States Donald Trump recently described as something he’d like to grab a woman by, was bruised from my ex-boyfriend's violence for at least the next week. I had a hard time wearing jeans. I couldn’t sleep without a pillow between my legs to create space. To this day I remember that moment. I remember the shame. I am afraid my mom will read this post. I'm even more afraid that my father could ever know this story. That it would break his heart. I couldn't take that. But you understand, don't you? I needed to tell a story. Enjoy the debates tonight.

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Yeah — “locker room banter” is totally acceptable, as is eventually acting on it. What do you think about her story in comparison to Trump’s leaked audio? Sound off in the comments below, and please, please do not forget to vote come November 8.

COLLEGECANDY Writer
Writer and editor living in New York City who also loves Taking Back Sunday, bad reality TV, and Leonardo DiCaprio (not necessarily in that order).