Personally, I hate making New Year’s resolutions. Half the time, I — and many others — forget to follow through with them (or just blatantly choose not to). Maybe it’s because we’re creatures of habit or maybe it’s because the change we’re seeking isn’t the kind of change we need, but at the moment I feel like there are some aspects of my life that I can make better. Maybe I’m not ready to stop my Netflix addiction, but I know I’m ready to start changing when it comes to dating habits.
Here are a few dating resolutions that I want to commit to this coming New Year. Hopefully, this list of resolutions can be something we can all do together.
1. To Be More Confident
Ever since I was a teenager, I’ve struggled with being confident. When I looked into the mirror, I thought I was ugly and unloveable. Obviously, I know that’s not true, but sometimes I can’t help but feel inadequate.
Confidence is attractive. Whether you’re a man or woman, having the courage to go out into the world and believe you’re worth it makes you seem put together. No one wants to be with someone who wallows in self-pity 24/7, so instead of thinking I’m the kind of person who’s always picked last in PE, I’m gonna believe that I’m the type who picked first. Who knows, maybe I will be.
2. To Stop Comparing Myself to Other Women
The idea of being inadequate stems from comparing myself to other women. Not only does it pit women against one another, but it lowers self-esteem. This year, I want to change that. I want to stop looking at other women as rivals and start seeing them as sisters. We all experience the struggles of dating, so we might as well fight the struggle together.
3. To Avoid F*ckboys
This one is pretty self-explanatory, but I want to say that 2017 is the year that F*ckboys disappear from my life.
4. To Stop Feeling Guilty
For some sad reason, I always end up feeling guilty whenever I break things off with someone I’m dating. Deep down, I know I shouldn’t feel bad if I end something (especially if I didn’t have feelings for someone), but I always feel like I’m a bad person for not liking everyone I date.
If you’re like me, we need to stop putting ourselves down and start taking care of ourselves. It’s pointless to feel guilty. I’d rather end things than string a person along.
5. To Be More Open-Minded
The future is a mystery. You never know what will come your way. It’s time to keep an open mind and an open heart when it comes to love. Of course, we all have our expectations when it comes to dating, but it’s time to take a step back and know what exactly those expectations are and whether or not they’re realistic. This upcoming year, I’ve decided to give people the chance to let the “charm bomb explode;” who knows, I might be surprised by the outcome.