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Mom Responds Perfectly After Daughter Calls Her Fat

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Kids say the darndest things.

Children typically have no filter, especially when it comes to noticing the differences in others’ appearances. It’s understandable, they simply don’t know any better. It’s up to their parents to teach them about being body positive and one mother, Allison Kimmey, has now become a role model for raising kids right.

Kimmey is a self-help author who writes about topics like self-love, self-care and personal empowerment. She recently shared a photo on Instagram of her reaction when her daughter called her fat.

The picture featured her and her four-year-old daughter in bathing suits on the beach. She captioned the photo, “My daughter called me fat today. She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat.”

My daughter called me fat today. She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat. I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat. Me: "what did you say about me?" Her: "I said you were fat, mama, im sorry" Me: "let's talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?" Her: "yes! I have some here on my tummy" Me: "that's right! So do I and so does your brother!" Her brother: "I don't have any fat, I'm the skinniest, I just have muscles" Me: "actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts." Her brother: " oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me" Me: "Yes, that's true. Some people have a lot, and others don't have very much. But that doesn't mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand? Both: "yes, mama" Me: "so can you repeat what I said" Them: "yes! I shouldn't say someone is fat because you can't be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it's okay to have different fat" Me: "exactly right!" Them: "can we go back to the pool now?" Me: no 🤣🤣 __________________ Each moment these topics come up i have to choose how I'm going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable. Since we don't call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest. Give me a 🙌🏻 if this resonated w u! Just do you! Xoxo Allie

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Instead of getting angry, Kimmey decided to have a “chat” with both of her children. She explained to them that everyone has fat, but each person has different amounts. Some have a lot and some don’t have very much, but that doesn’t make one person better than the other.

Kimmey continued:

“Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable. Since we don’t call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest.”

Kimmey has had a rough past struggling with restrictive eating, yo-yo dieting and body dysmorphia. She wants her Instagram account to inspire her followers with her journey of self-love. The author admits that she is careful with the media she consumes and really tried to filter what her children are exposed to, but acknowledges that she can’t shelter them from everything.

🍩🍩🍩When someone says National Donut Day, I say GIVE ME THE BIGGEST ONE!🍩🍩🍩 A few years ago I would have NEVER gotten one of these for two reasons: ☝🏼deathly afraid to eat "bad" foods and would obsess over how to cancel it out ✌🏻fear of being judged for eating a donut as people would think "oh that must be why she's fat" And now, here's me, not giving a fuck about either of those because I have a right to enjoy made up holidays without explaining my health or fearing of what others may think of my choices. Be free babes and do some things that bring you joy that you've been holding out from doing. Life is too short, eat the damn donut! Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie ________ Adorbs tie front dress by @lanebryant Delicious donut by @donutkingclermont

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Kimmey told Huffington Post,Your children are going to visit friends’ houses. Your children are going to hear nasty comments in school. Your children are going to consume the perfection ideal being shoved down their throats at every corner… and that is why it HAS to be a constant at home that you’re keeping an open dialogue to build up their confidence, keep a clear and realistic body image idea, and to embrace their own uniqueness while empowering them to be accepting of the differences of all humankind.”

She previously made news with her empowering style of parenting. Back in March, people were talking about a conversation Kimmey had with her daughter about stretch marks. She called them “shiny,” “sparkly,” and “pretty” and acknowledged them as “glitter stripes.”

Kimmey now has a soon-to-be-published children’s book called Giltter Stripes.

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