Use These 10 Tips To Help You Dump A Toxic Friend

Choosing to break up with a friend is never easy. Because you two both have established a such a close bond, it can feel like a big betrayal even especially when you start to consider all the special times and experiences you shared with her. But sometimes, especially in the case of a toxic friend, you grow apart and start to realize that the friendship is doing more damage than good. Perhaps your once supportive, protective and caring friend has turned into this cold, catty, selfish b**ch and you’ve had enough. Whatever your reasoning is, once you’ve decided that it’s time to close the door on a friendship that toxic, trying to figure out how the hell you’re going to go about it is the obvious next step.

But how exactly do you go about breaking things off with a toxic friend? If you’re ready to close the door on a crappy friendship, here are 10 simple steps to do so.


1.Set a date

Once you’ve decided to dump your frenemy, set a date and time to do the deed like you would a date. Doing this allows you little wiggle room to push back the pending task at hand. The more you put it off, the less likely you are to go throw with it. Setting a date and time makes going through with it a more tangible goal.


2.Be mature and be kind

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You may be tempted to come at your former friend with rage and with the same crappy ass attitude she gives you but resist those urges. To lesson the chances of releasing your wrath avoid alcohol before you decide to break things off. Keeping things more classy and less trashy will bring better results in the end.


3.Phase out slowly

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When you’re ready to dump a toxic friend, phasing out of the friendship slowly makes for a much smoother transition. Slowly removing them from your social media, declining invites to hang out and cutting back on how much you talk to one another are all ways to slowly rid her of your life.


4.Fill in your friends

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Choosing to end a friendship with someone is 100 % percent your personal business so whether you want to fill your friends in is entirely up to you. Of course, if you do have mutual friends, letting them know (at your own discretion), that you are no longer cool with one of the gal’s in the group can make things easier and less messy for future Girls Nights


5.Create boundaries

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This is probably one of the more harder steps when choosing to end things with a toxic friend, mainly because they’ve become¬†accustomed to you being so open and forthcoming with them. When it comes to setting boundaries, it’s best to do so slowly versus being more abrupt. If you go from sharing everything with your former friend one day to barely picking up the phone when she calls the next, she’s gonna wanna know the deal. Choosing to set boundaries by skipping on invites to hang out, cutting down on how much you both talk on the phone and sharing less personal info with her will create those transitional boundaries smoothly and efficiently.


6.Make it about you

When you’re finally ready to break things off with your friend, be sure that you make it a point to let her know that it’s less about her and more so about you. Perhaps you two have just grown apart, or you want to focus on other areas of your life. In any case, when you’re breaking things off, make sure you make it less about her and more about you.


7.Identify the problem

Your friend will more than likely want to know the reason as to why you’re breaking up with her so make sure that if she does ask, you tell her exactly what it was that is causing you to make this decision. Make sure you present it to her in a way that doesn’t come across as harsh or catty but more constructive. So if it was her negative attitude that caused you to walk away, telling her something like, “I always loved how bright and bubbly you were. Being around you was so much fun, and your positive energy made it such a great time. But lately your spirit isn’t what it used to be, and as much as I’ve tried to get you to be more positive again, it just doesn’t seem to be working.”


8.Be formal and firm

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Your friend is gonna try and talk you out of pulling the plug on your friendship, so it’s essential that when you’re doing the dumping that you hold firm and keep it formal. When she tries to sucker you back in, remind her of the reasons why it’s best that you both part ways and that it’s again, not so much about her but more so about you.


9.Don’t feel guilty

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There’s a definite chance that you may feel guilty afterward- I mean it’s expected. But try not to wallow in those feelings of guilt and remember why you had to go through with it in the first place. If you must mourn the end of the friendship, do so for only a brief amount of time.


10.Release the toxins

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Once you’ve finally closed the door on the friendship, take some time to release all the bad energy. Whether that’s discarding old photos, donating any gifts or deleting her phone number. Doing this will allow you a fresh start and will get rid of any potential bad energy that may have carried over.

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