Growing out of love with your college sweetheart can be awkward, uncomfortable and totally heartbreaking. While there may have been a time where you couldn’t see your life without your college bae, sometimes we wind up drifting apart and calling it quits with our significant other.
Before you make an attempt to salvage a dissipating relationship with your college sweetheart, take a look at these five signs that you’re falling out of love with your college boo and it may be time to give the relationship the heave-ho.
1. You’ve got your eyes on someone else.
There may have been a time where you only had eyes for your bae, but if you find that your mind (and eyes) are wandering more than ever, it may be a sign that you’re ready to explore your other options as a single gal. It’s perfectly reasonable to find others attractive or good looking or to occasionally sneak a peak on the low, but if you find yourself fantasizing about your local barista more often than not, or if your bae just isn’t cutting it anymore when things get hot and heavy, that may be a sign that you’re just not into them anymore. And while it sounds terrible, dumping your bae before things get out of hand and you cheat or do something you’ll wind up regretting, allows for you to make a clean break without any relationship blood or bad karma looming over your head in the future.
2. You’d rather be alone than with your sweetheart.
In the beginning, the two of you spent all your free time and every waking moment you could spare together. However, if you find that you’d rather spend your free time catching up on Vanderpump Rules and Riverdale alone, or you’d rather spend your free time alone versus having some quality time with your sweetie, that may be a signs that you need a break from your bae.
3. You’re not quite sure how you two will work outside of college.
You’ve got your entire life planned out for the next few years after you graduate but when it comes to your relationship with your college bae, you’re having a hard time trying to figure out how they’ll fit into your life post-college. It can be a hard reality to face and an even harder pill to swallow, but if you find that you’re having a hard time fitting your college boo thang into your life after you graduate or if you can’t really see the relationship working well post-graduation, it may be a sign to give the relationship a rest after you graduate.
4. You fantasize about your freedom.
Being in a relationship has its trial and tribulations, and sometimes there will be some bad days. But if you find that you’re flirting and fantasizing more about how fabulous your life would be as a single gal or if the thought of being single and “free” makes you giddy with glee, it may be time to end things.
5. You’re growing apart, not closer.
It makes sense that over time we naturally grow closer to our sweetheart. However, if you find that you and bae are growing apart versus closer, this is maybe a cue to jump ship and call it quits.