Okay I admit, I pay way more attention to astrology than I need to, and yes every date that I’ve ever had I have not refrained from asking their star sign. I mean the relief that you feel when you find out that person you’ve been crushing on has a compatible sign with you? It practically solidifies that you’re meant to be together right? Or the crushing disappointment that you feel when you find out your dreamy classmate has the least compatible sign with your sign? It gives you the perfect excuse to just move on and not bother gaining the courage to finally talk to them! However, although astrology can offer a lot of entertainment along with excuses to not talk to your crush, overall your relationship’s success is not going to be determined by whether or not you both have compatible zodiac signs. Here are a few reasons why.
Reason #1: Natal Charts
So the basis of compatibility goes like this. Water signs ( Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces) are most compatible with other water signs and also earth signs ( Virgo, Capricorn, and Taurus). Likewise, Fire signs ( Leo, Aries, and Sagittarius) are most compatible with other fire signs as well as air signs ( Aquarius, Libra, and Gemini) and vice versa for Air signs and Earth signs. Before you end it all because he’s a fire sign and you’re a water sign, try looking a little bit deeper. People mistakenly base their compatibility with someone based off of their sun signs alone. You can find out if you’re truly compatible with your natal chart. Your natal chart is composed of all of the different aspects that make up who you are. You don’t only have a sun sign! Try going online and finding a free natal chart generator. You can now compare your moon signs, venus signs, planet houses, there’s so much more to you than just your sun sign! Perhaps you’re a Leo and he’s a Cancer, but your moon sign is Aquarius and his Libra. One aspect on your chart could be incompatible, but the entire rest of your chart could match up in harmony.
Reason #2: There are obstacles not deal breakers
Let’s say that your entire natal chart is incompatible (worst case scenario right?). This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t go out with this person, it just means that there are certain obstacles you are going to need to look out for and work through within your relationship. Compromise is always possible. If you’re dating a Leo and you think that they’re a bit too self-centered or you’re dating a Scorpio and they’re acting a bit too jealous lately, things can always be talked through and resolved as long as the person that you’re with is mature enough to claim their flaws and attempt to work through them. Someone being incompatible with you is not an end to a potentially happy and fulfilling relationship, it just means that you are going to need to work a bit harder to communicate and make sure that everyone is understood in order to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings.
Reason #3: There is no statistical evidence that says you won’t work out
This is perhaps the biggest reason for those of us out there that rely more on logistics. In 2007 a research team from the University of Manchester conducted a study called “Ten million marriages: A test of astrological “love signs”.” Within this study, the team reviewed 10 million marriages in the United Kingdom and referred to the zodiac signs of each couple. After the study was conducted they found that one’s zodiac sign has no impact on marrying and staying married to someone of a sign that is incompatible with theirs. So if you still need more reassurance at least you now know that there are millions of married couples that have been married for a considerable amount of time with drastically different signs.
So, instead of passing that guy up on Tinder because you found out that he’s an Aquarius, I would suggest opening your heart and mind to the idea that yes astrology is fun and can be useful in certain circumstances, but it is not going to determine your potential to be happy with someone. Isn’t that a relief? If before you were reserving yourself for solely earth and water signs look how many people you can date now! Look at all of the air and fire signs out there that you can now go after! Have fun dating all of the signs that you are incompatible with! You’re going to have a great time.