You’ve already taken the step in being in a relationship, but it seems like it’s time to take it to the next level. When you decide to do so, there are some things you should get to know when it comes to your partner and how they are feeling about you two as a couple. Asking them generic questions about love, marriage, kids, and money will help give you a better idea on who they are, if they can help support you as a family and if you approve of their answers.
Here are 20 questions you can ask your significant other to see if your relationship is ready for the next level and will push you in the next direction your relationship will go.
Questions About Love
Bringing up the “love” word can be very intimidating and scary especially the first time you do. It could go one way or the complete opposite at the snap of a finger. However, if you are starting to feel like you love your partner, then it’s time to start dropping subtle hints.
The best way to do this is by asking other questions about love that don’t involve you spilling your heart out but let you test the waters and see where it might go.
- Do you believe in having a soulmate, or do you think there is more than one person meant for you?
- Have you ever been in love with someone, if so how did you know or not know?
- Do you think there has to be a specific time span before you tell someone you love them, or do you think “If you know, then you know?
- Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?
- What do you think is the most important thing to have in a relationship? (trust, friendship, affection, openness, etc.)
Questions About Marriage
If you are already past the “I love you” stage and things are looking like you two might be together forever, it’s time to start talking about the next step. Marriage isn’t something you want to rush into, and you want to be 100% sure you are ready to talk about it.
Asking generic questions about marriage in general and their overall thoughts will let you see how they feel about it without cornering them and making it uncomfortable. Also, you can watch their body language and pay attention to their tone of voice to see if they are comfortable talking about it or not.
- Do you ever want to get married one day, or do you want to just stay in one long and happy relationship?
- If you could describe your dream wedding what would it be like?
- Would you ever consider a prenuptial agreement?
- What do you think would be the hardest part about marriage, what do you think would be the best part about marriage?
- How old do you want to be when you finally settle down and get married?
Questions About Kids
Having children is a big step to take when you’re in a relationship with someone. Whether you’re planning on having biological children or adopting, there still is a ton of planning to take care of first. For some people having children or not having children is a make or break deal in the relationship, and it is better to know your partner’s opinions about it sooner than later.
Bringing up light, fluffy questions first about children is a smart way to see how they feel, but also not make it seem like you’re ready to jump the gun that very moment.
- Do you want to have children? If so how many do you want?
- If your partner couldn’t have a child would you still be with them and choose a different option like adoption?
- What is your ideal location for starting a family and raising your children? Big city or a more rural area?
- How old do you want to be when you start a family?
- What morals do you want to raise your children on and how will you do so?
Questions About Money
Money is a touchy subject for a majority of people, and keeping it private is something that most people do. However, it is important to know what they are like with money because you’re in a serious relationship with them. Not knowing how they handle money could lead to disaster depending on how they are.
Asking basic questions about their financial side shouldn’t be a hard topic to discuss especially if you two see yourselves together for a very long time. Keeping the dialogue open will help keep your relationship healthy and leave no secrets to find out in the future.
- Would you rather have a job that pays little but makes you happy, or has a job that pays really well but doesn’t make you happy?
- Do you think money can buy happiness, if so why do you think that?
- How do you budget your expenses? Do you have any debt, loans, good/bad credit score, savings, etc.?
- If you had millions of dollars what would you spend it on?
- What is one thing that you will spend your money on no matter the price?