You probably don’t realize how much you stress out because it is like second nature at this point. Remember when you couldn’t wait to turn a year older when you were in middle school or wanted to prove to your parents you could do “adult” things? Where is the rewind button when you need it. Adulting comes with a lot of baggage such as hard work, eaten paychecks, and stress headaches. You have to work your butt off to just make a tolerable lifestyle. Even though life can be a struggle sometimes, it doesn’t mean you always have to go into panic mode. There are ways out there to make life a little easier, right?
We don’t always want to trust the process and believe everything happens for a reason, which causes us to have major anxiety. We can’t control every little thing in our life, but you can control how you react to it. There are many habits to help with this kind of stress. To help you get started, here are the top 5 habits to de-stress that are expert-approved!
1. Stop Procrastinating Every Little Thing In Your LifeGiphy
Let’s be real here, who doesn’t have the procrastination life? Whether it be leaving that paper till the last minute or getting ready five minutes before you have plans, procrastination takes a toll in any situation. We intentionally and habitually put things off because we are only human, but this lifestyle is making your life a living hell.
Noted psychotherapist, author, and founder of LoveVictory.com, LeslieBeth Wish, says procrastination is pretty high on the list of things that make life more difficult because when a task is looming, so is the pressure to get it done.
“We tend to put things off when the task is too difficult, confusing, unpleasant, or scary – even or mostly when that task is very important,” she says.
Remember that history paper from high school that was forty percent of your grade and you had all semester to do it? But left it till the week before it was due anyway? Yeah…
When you have things to get done, do it quickly and efficiently. But, how do you even start something when you have absolutely no motivation? That’s where Wish comes into play.
She says the first tip is to just start, even if that means doing a little bit each night before bed so you feel somewhat accomplished by the morning. You can also initiate some sort of buddy system in which a friend or family member hold you accountable, or you can come up with some sort of reward for yourself to indulge in once you’ve finished.
We know this sounds silly, but who doesn’t get motivated by a slice of pizza or chocolate chip cookie?!
2. Get Off Your PhoneGiphy
Think about it, when was the last time you stepped away from your phone for at least five minutes? It’s sad to admit, but I get anxiety whenever I can’t find my phone for a minute or forget it at home. You also hate being alone in a public place, so your phone is your savior. Not only that but you probably even take it to the bathroom with you. Sure technology is great, but it is addicting. Not to mention, it causes major anxiety as well. Constant connectivity can be a blessing but also a curse.
Dr. Darria Long Gillespie, a board-certified emergency department physician, and digital health executive said, “research shows that having our devices at the ready at all times not only does harm to our attention span and memory, it also raises our cortisol levels, which makes us feel more stressed.”
Gillespie suggests rather taking a moment for yourself on your phone, try going somewhere quiet and take a deep breath, and practice being mindful.
“You’ll think more clearly, have better interactions, and just be more relaxed — and you’ll never view downtime the same way again,” she said.
3. Plan Ahead As Much As PossibleGiphy
Planning ahead might seem like an annoying task, but it will save you major stress in the long run. If you prepare every day with a set task, you will feel much more relieved.
Dr. Danielle Forshee, LLC, doctor of psychology and licensed clinical social worker, says preparing in advance for tasks – big or small – that you know you need to do is going to make your life much easier.
“When the time comes for you to accomplish that task or engage in that task, you have already prepped yourself psychologically and concretely for it,” she said.
You might think this only has to do with career-affiliated things, but it also takes part in your social life. Traci Stein, PhD, MPH, a PsychologyToday.com expert says little things such as making your lunch and set out your outfit the night beforehand can help with taking away stress.
I always make my breakfast the night before and put it in the fridge overnight so I don’t stress about it in the morning. You might call me crazy, but I swear it works and helps take some edge off in the morning.
4. Get A PlannerGiphy
If you don’t have a planner, it is time to invest in one ASAP. It is the reason why I have my life together, literally. I plan every little thing in my day every day, so I know exactly what I need to have done.
You don’t have to be an extra an me and invest in a physical book. Maybe try an app on your phone if that is easier. Either way, planning your life out “creates a structure and gives some predictability to a seemingly chaotic schedule,” Forshee said. “It’ll also come in handy when you’re swamped with work and social invitations.”
It will make it easier to say yes to going somewhere and knowing you can handle it, and vice versa.
Forshee also emphasizes to take advantage of the calendar on your phone to set alerts to remind you of things you have to get done. You will be less likely to forget something or procrastinate something.
5. You Don’t Have To Say Yes To EverythingGiphy
I know it can be hard to say no to your best friend who is dying to check out the hottest new club in town. But it may be better for you and your anxiety. Of course, you love to be social and go out, but we need a break from life time-to-time. If someone asks for a ridiculous favor from you and you have zero time, remember the two-letter word “no.”
“Overcommitting ourselves is one of the biggest reasons so many of us end up feeling stressed and like we never have enough hours in the day,” Minimalism Life blogger Carl Phillips wrote in an article. “Instead, we can simplify our commitments and say ‘yes’ to less.”
This might seem easier said than done, but it is definitely worth a shot. You will feel so much more relaxed once you have the guts to say no and be able to focus on you. But don’t say no to everything, you have to get out there once in a while!
These 5 tips from experts are your gateway to a stress-free and healthy lifestyle. Don’t just stare at your computer screen and stress out, even more, start following these tips now.