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It doesn’t sound right or seems fair, but women cheat on their partners while still professing their ever-dying love to their bae way more than it’s talked about. It can be mind baffling trying to figure out why women who seem to be in perfectly peaceful and satisfying relationships stray but as it turns out, there are a few well-known and all too obvious reasons why women who are in love with their partners tend to stray.
If you’re wondering where the sudden and/or continuous urge to step out on your S.O. is coming from despite being in love, take a look at these five reasons why women who are in love decide to cheat on their partners.
1. You feel too safe.
Being in a relationship is all about balance and while feeling secure and safe with your bae is the ultimate goal, sometimes when a relationship feels a bit too safe, we tend to lose interest and get bored.
There’s nothing like an unbreakable and safe bond between you and bae, but when things no longer are exciting, or you no longer find them as sexy, that’s when straying becomes a tempting option to fulfill those needs not being met.
To avoid straying when the spark dies down, try to make an effort to keep things spicy every once in a while. Also, if you feel like the passion and spontaneity has taken a major nose-dive SPEAK UP and let your partner know the deal before the deed is done.
2. You miss the “love affirmations” you got in the beginning of your relationship.
During the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship, that’s usually when most couples are at their happiest because you both are together enjoying one another’s love and attention. The beginning of a relationship is when it’s most common for you and your partner to exchange “I love you” and other “love affirmations” to one another repeatedly. It’s not only sweet but reassuring.
Often times those love affirmations die down and your love tank is left on “E,” and you’re left looking for those love affirmations elsewhere. Avoid seeking that love elsewhere and continue to profess and “chase” your boo as you both did in the beginning. The excitement of continually being pursued will help keep the love alive.
3. You’re growing up.
Growing up is apart of life. As we grow and evolve our interests, wants and needs change and evolve as well. Your S.O. may have been the apple of your eye when you both were high school sweethearts but now that you’re older, what you want and need in a partner may have changed.
Growing up and your wants and needs changing in a relationship is totally normal–cheating, however, is not the way to go about it. Instead, keep things real with your boo and let them know that you’re looking for something different and you’re ready to date other people.
4. You’re subconsciously motivated to cheat.
Sometimes a traumatic event from our pasts or underlying fear can cause us to subconsciously step out on our partners. And while cheating because you have a fear of abandonment due to a traumatizing experience from your childhood is no excuse, it’s important to take any underlying issues you may have and sort them out to break the destructive behavior. Be open and honest with your partner about your issues and consider speaking to a therapist or counselor.
5. You’ve grown apart.
Growing apart from your partner is common in some relationships. Instead of cheating on them to fulfill your needs, call things off before things get to that point is a better way to go about moving on. Plus it’s not nearly as messy or dramatic.
