How many more excuses do you think you can make in your 20s? We’ve all been there, coming up with a lie to not go to your friend’s friend’s party and sitting at home doing nothing instead. You say to yourself you are just waiting for the right moment to get out there or waiting until a certain time in your life comes. But, why would you wait when you can live your best life now? Your 20s is the most risk-taking time period in your life, which is why you have to let go of the excuses and start thriving.
Of course, it is easier to say this than actually stepping out of your comfort zone and making a change. Believe it or not, everyone around you who is the same age is going through the same slump you are. It is hard to sometimes put away those constant worries and actually test the waters out there. But you have to live in the moment because a wise man once said, “we only live once.” That wise man was Drake. You don’t see him making excuses, do you? And he is definitely living his best life. This excuse-full life doesn’t have to be the world you live in anymore. Remember these top 5 excuses we all make in our 20s that we should not be making, and you will be on your way to living your best life.
1. “I’m Too Tired.”
Ever used this classic one? The “I’m too tired” excuse is probably everyone’s favorite. We might say we are too tired, but the truth is we are just so lazy to actually make the effort to go out. There is nobody to put the blame on but yourself because let’s be real, you are not actually that tired.
If you did have a long day and do not have any energy to go out, then stay home. That is the only time you really should stay home if you are actually tired. But if you did absolutely nothing that day and have been in your pajamas slouching on the couch binge watching Netflix, then get your butt up and out of there! You never know what is out there, and you don’t know until you actually get out of your house. Stop making this excuse and start making good memories with your friends. If you know you are going out, try to sleep earlier the night before to get a good night sleep. You’ll thank us later.
2. “I Have Nothing To Wear.”
The infamous line of every girl, “I have nothing to wear.” I for one will be the first to admit this is my top excuse I make before I go out. I look through my closet about five times, give up, and text my friends that I’m feeling under the weather. We all get sick of our closet sometimes, but maybe change up the look by adding a pair of hoop earrings or a chunky necklace. It really adds to the outfit and can even look like a whole different appearance. Or you even have the option to raid your roommate’s closet, now you have more options to choose from!
The real truth is that you do have something to wear, you just stress out about picking the perfect outfit because who doesn’t want to look good. Or you could just be plain old lazy again. Calm down and get a little creative. It can’t hurt and it is a fun way of getting ready for a night out.
3. “I Have No Time.”
We tend to book ourselves up without even realizing. We have a full work schedule during the week and already made plans for every weekend of that month for get-togethers with friends. Even though hanging out with your friends is always a fun time, sometimes it is good to have some “me time,” too.
Whether it be having a spa day or doing a road trip, it is important to make time for yourself. We think we don’t have any time in the world, but trust me you do. You just have to be a smarter planner and learn how to not say yes to every brunch with your girlfriends. It also helps if you disconnect yourself from social media platforms because that is probably the most time consuming and pointless way of spending free time.
4. “I Don’t Want To Do It Alone.”
Your 20s is the prime time of learning how to do things alone. It may seem a bit weird at first doing things on your own, but you will eventually become comfortable in your own skin and be able to actually get stuff accomplished. It feels good to finish a task by yourself without any help because you remind yourself that you are capable of doing anything you set your mind to, you just have to get over the fear of loneliness.
This age range makes you realize no one has the same schedule anymore. This is a segway into learning how to be on your own, even if it’s as simple as going on a walk or relaxing in a coffee shop. You might surprise yourself by how entertaining it is to be by yourself and how much you can get done in a short amount of time. Who knows, maybe you can discover something new that you never knew before. Don’t just wait for others to live life with, do it yourself.
5. “I Have No Money.”
Your 20s is the beginning of real life, such as getting a paid job or paying for things on your own. You are probably very careful with how you spend the money you earn because you want to save up for your own apartment. But this holds you back from a fun night with friends because you make the excuse of having no money.
I’m not saying to go out every night and splurge like no tomorrow, but once in a while, it’s okay. You just have to figure out a good balance on how to spend your money and what nights work best for your paycheck. There is no need to rush on this because it is very important, but maybe becoming a smarter spender can help along the way. Let’s be real, do you really need that five-dollar cold brew every day? And let’s not forget they charge extra if you are trying to be healthy and opt out for almond milk.
Next time you think of these five excuses instead of doing something, take a step back and actually think about it. Are you really that tired? Do you really have nothing to wear? Do you really not have time? Do you really not want to do something alone? Do you really not have money? Yeah, I thought so. That’s your cue to start living your best damn life.