Being an introvert does not mean that you hole up in your room all day and hiss whenever someone knocks on the door. Likewise, being extroverted doesn’t mean that you’re out at a party every single night and you curl up into a ball and cry if at least ten people don’t talk to you in one day. There are a lot of misconceptions surrounding the words extroverted and introverted. For example, people generally assume that introverted people are afraid to talk to others, and extroverted people are always needing to be apart of an “in crowd”.Yes, some introverts are shy, but not all of them are. Generally, being an introvert just means that you really value the times in which you are by yourself. Your internal thoughts are enough for you and you are content spending hours alone. It doesn’t mean that you hate talking to people or that you never go out, it just means that if you had to choose between going to the big party that your friend throws every Saturday versus curling up with some hot chocolate and Netflix at home you are more likely to choose the latter. Introverts can still be amazing friends and enjoy companionship, they just crave having that self-care alone time more than they crave spending time with other people.
On the other hand, extroverts thrive when they are around other people and may crave larger settings rather than smaller intimate ones. However, even the most extroverted person can appreciate a day to themselves from time to time. Being extroverted doesn’t always mean that you have to be the life of the party, or that you need to be in constant communication 24/7. It just means that you would rather go out and socialize if you had to choose between that and staying in. Check out this guide to see if you’re an introvert or an extrovert…. or maybe you’re both!
Signs that you are an introvert:
Some of the moments in which you are most content occur when you are by yourself:
You’re meditating or watching Netflix, or just chilling on your bed and scrolling through social media and you feel completely at ease just by yourself. You might even consider these days on your own to be your perfect days. If you feel like some of the best times have been with just you and yourself than you’re probably an introspective introvert!
You never necessarily had a desire to be the lead in theatre:
Whenever you were in school you didn’t necessarily feel the need to be the center of attention. In fact, you were perfectly okay with staying in the background during broadcasting or being a behind the scenes and supporting role kind of guy in theatre.
You hate meaningless small talk:
You dread when you meet new people and all you talk about is the mundane things in life. You crave those deep and intimate conversations with close friends and enjoy devoting your time to people that have the same interests as you that you feel that you can talk to for hours.
You feel drained after too many social interactions:
You love spending time with your friends and family but after a while, you just feel exhausted and crave the feeling of curling up in bed and listening to your favorite podcast.
You are extremely self-aware:
Being an introvert means that you may spend a large amount of time by yourself. Introverts tend to be extremely self-aware and introspective. All of the alone time has really let you get to know yourself and your likes/dislikes as well as your summations about the world.
Signs that you are an extrovert:
Social interactions seem to give you energy:
Being surrounded by other people and chatting up a crowd gives you a rush of endorphins. You feel like you could talk all night and never get tired.
You prefer not to be alone:
Being on your own for too long may cause you to have feelings of isolation. It can be draining for you to not have human contact for a significant amount of hours. If you feel like you would dread the feelings of being by yourself for an entire day or even half of a day you could most likely consider yourself an extrovert!
You crave the spotlight:
In school, you were always the first to raise your hand, or you were dying to have the lead role in theatre. You never shy away from the spotlight and you’re always ready to step up and volunteer as tribute. You especially love being the center of attention whether you’re talking with friends or mingling at a party.
You enjoy working in a team rather than alone:
You love group projects and can’t wait to put your heads together with others and get to know new and interesting people.
You hate awkward silences:
You recognize the importance of a comfortable silence when you reach a certain closeness in your friendships and relationships, but you despise meeting new people and having any snippets of dead air. You always feel the need to fill the empty space up with your lovely chatter.
Signs that you are an ambivert
You love socializing but you also appreciate your time alone:
You have a balance of gaining energy from spending time with others and thriving off of being alone. You tend to have days where you crave being surrounded by friends and family and days where you just want to rest easy and watch your favorite sitcoms alone.
You’re indecisive about whether you want to stay in or go out:
It’s Friday night and you aren’t sure if you want to go to a party or order in and watch Netflix. Both sound appealing to you! You find yourself in many indecisive situations like this.
You feel comfortable by yourself but also in loud bustling environments:
You don’t feel like you’re going to be inhibited whether you’re in a bustling crowd or alone for 6 hours. You can handle both just fine!
You don’t prefer group or individual work:
You see the benefits of working by yourself but of working with others as well. You can appreciate your own independence when working alone and also appreciate extra help and ideas when it comes to working with a group.
You can relate to both introverts and extroverts and communicate with the extremes of both:
Some of your friends are holed up in their room for days and some of your friends you hang out with almost every day and see at every major function. You can appreciate and communicate with a vast variety of introverts and extroverts and cherish the special qualities that each one holds.
Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, appreciate the unique qualities that make you who you are. There is nothing wrong with being introverted, extroverted, or ambiverted. Celebrate your authentic self!