Long-term relationship breakups are not easy. We are here to help you get over yours. Here are the ways to get past the post-breakup blues and start focusing on yourself.
Self Help Books
Self-help books are so underrated. Breakups often leave us feeling extremely negative about ourselves which can cause a downward spiral of self-destruction. To come out on top after your heartbreak. Self-help books provide insight on ways we can rewire our thought process to have a more positive outlook on ourselves and life and general. Break-ups are 10 times easier when you feel good about yourself. Some great self-help books to read after a break up are “You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life,” By Jen Sincero and “The Power Of Now” By Eckhart Tolle.
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MAKE PLANS. Finding yourself alone with your thoughts following a break-up makes the whole process much more difficult. It’s when we are on our own that we create scenarios in our head, creep our exes social media and cry into a carton of Ben and Jerry’s wondering why we aren’t good enough. Some alone time isn’t going to kill you– in fact, it can be great for personal reflection, but too much alone time may do more harm than good. Even though after a break-up sitting in bed alone for hours on end may seem like the only thing to do, it is important to push yourself to make plans. Spending time with friends is a great way to stay occupied and get support at the same time. Also, try making a to-do list of three things you need to get done each day. This is an easy way to give yourself a small accomplishable task that will make you feel like you have been productive. Picking up extra shifts at work is also a great way to take your mind off of things and you make money while you do it.
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All you need for this step is the internet, some pencil crayons or markers, and some paper. Pinterest is a great way to find positive quotes/ post-break up quotes. Find a few– or a ton of quotes that make you feel warm and fuzzy inside and get creative by making little signs to hang out around your bedroom or house with positive messages. This tip works as a two-fold because the actual act of crafting the signs will make you feel good and constantly seeing them is a great way to train your mind. Another fun idea is to give yourself a “quote of the week.” Your quote of the week can be written on your whiteboard or made into your phone background. The idea is that you are putting reminders in place that will train you to have a more positive outlook.
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Focusing on your mental state is extremely important but in order to be in the optimal state of mind physical health is crucial. This does not mean that because you went through a break-up you need to start going to the gym 6 times a week and become the next Tammy Hembrow, but it does mean that healthy changes should be made. Incorporating exercise 3-4 times a week is a great start. On top of being more physically active, make an effort to eat healthier. Taking better care of yourself is a great way to lift your spirits. If you struggle at getting started with a fitness regimen you can get started by checking out some of these tips:
Don’t be too hard on yourself, you are doing you’r best
As you can probably tell by now, a positive mindset is going to be your ticket to getting over your break-up. Having a healthy, positive mindset will seem 100% out of reach if you are constantly hard on yourself and putting yourself down. When going through a break-up, it is important to remember that the relationship ended because it wasn’t meant to be. Remember that there is nothing wrong with you and that you will eventually find someone who accepts you for all of you. Keep your head up– you got this.