From Dro’s open marriage on the HBO series Insecure to Frank and Claire on House of Cards, open relationships and hook up culture have infiltrated both our TV screens and our personal lives. Studies have shown that traditional, monogamous relationships are on the decline as the percentage of college students engaging in casual hookups with multiple partners and even partaking in open relationships is on the rise. But are they actually feasible in real life? Is it right for you or are you just innately meant to be monogamous? Here are 5 signs that an open relationship is not for you.
1. You’re using an open relationship as an excuse to sleep aroundGiphy
PLEASE, save your partner from going through months of confusion and emotional instability with you simply because you’re not sure if you want to be in a monogamous relationship. The answer to your internal dilemma is not going to be opening up your relationship because you’re horny and you’re debating on whether or not you should just be single.
2. You get jealous easilyGiphy
The purpose of initiating a polyamorous relationship is so that you can pursue consensual sexual and romantic relations with other people and have it not be considered cheating. If your blood boils at the thought of your significant other merely breathing around another person, or if you find yourself creeping through their Instagram likes just to see if that one hoe you were suspicious about liked their photo, then yeah, you probably wouldn’t thrive in an open relationship.
3. You become easily emotionally attached to sexGiphy
Forno one this doesn’t exist some people, it can be incredibly easy to detach their emotions from sex. But for the rest of us, it can be difficult to control who we catch feelings for. If you find yourself becoming increasingly attached to the person you are sleeping with, then adding other people to your body count while you’re already in a relationship is probably not the best idea.
4. You think that seeing other people will fix your rocky relationshipGiphy
If you are already in a rocky relationship, you might think that seeing other people will be the cure to your problems. A healthy relationship requires opening up all channels of communication and being honest with your partner. If you are struggling to do this in a monogamous relationship, then adding even more people to the mix would only further complicate things.
5. You have zero interest in seeing other people
Ok if you can’t even fathom seeing other people, then you probably wouldn’t be ok with your significant other seeing other people. For an open relationship to truly be successful, you both need to be on the same page. You need to lay down exactly how “open” your relationship will be- are you allowed to sleep with other people but not date them? What does “dating” even constitute? Just sex or something more? COMMUNICATION is the key!