How to Handle Valentine’s Day in a New Relationship

Starting a new relationship is exciting, yet terrifying. You’ve agreed to commit to this person and start a new long-term journey together, but you’re still in the early stages; therefore, deciding what to do for Valentine’s Day can be difficult.

First of all, relax and don’t overthink it. We’re here to help! Keep reading for our top tips on navigating Valentine’s Day as a new couple.


Talk to Your Partner

If you’re worried about Valentine’s Day, chances are that your other half is too. There’s nothing wrong with communicating these feelings, in fact, it’s highly encouraged. Over 67% of divorces in the US are due to a lack of communication and, while the wedding bells might not be ringing just yet, it’s always a good idea to start as you mean to go on. Try asking your partner these questions:

  • Do you consider Valentine’s Day to be important? 
  • What have you done on Valentine’s Day in the past? 
  • Do you have any expectations for us this year?

Knowing where you both stand will be a relief and, hopefully, you’ll be on the same page about how you wish to celebrate your new relationship.

Keep it Low-Key

Not everyone will find this an appealing option – if you’d rather get dressed up and go for a fancy dinner, more power to you! However, many couples will find that a casual Valentine’s date takes a lot of the pressure off and, with no high expectations, you can just concentrate on enjoying each other’s company. Why not get your favorite takeout, some great snacks and settle in for a romantic movie night?

Picking a movie to watch is a point of contention for many couples, and the last thing you want is to start an argument on the most romantic day of the year. If you get stuck, you can use a handy Valentine’s Day film infographic to find something you’ll both enjoy.


Popcorn Carton With Heart Made of Popcorn on Blue Background


Should You Exchange Gifts? 

Americans spent a staggering $21.8 billion on Valentine’s Day in 2021, and this year will likely be no exception. In a long-term relationship, you probably wouldn’t think twice about splashing the cash on your partner, but, in the early stages, it can be less clear. 

Again, this is something you should talk to your partner about. However, don’t feel too much pressure to get each other a present for Valentine’s Day. Something as simple as a card with a handwritten message is inexpensive yet heartfelt, and that can mean much more than an extravagant gift. Hopefully, there will be many Valentine’s Days to come with that special someone, and more opportunities to show your love with a present. 

Overall, you shouldn’t stress about your first Valentine’s Day with someone as it should be a happy time that reminds you why you’ve started this relationship in the first place. Just enjoy your other half’s company, and don’t feel any pressure to do what other couples are doing. 

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