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It usually happens when you least expect it – you are minding your own business walking down the street or at a restaurant having dinner with your parents when you happen to look up and BAM! Total heart-stopping hottie. You would give your right arm to talk to him, but you don’t know how to make your approach without seeming desperate. Despair no more! The four-part strategy I have outlined below has a 70% effectiveness rate. With practice, it can be even higher! So stop stressing about getting him to talk to you and start thinking about what to wear on your first date.
To make it easier to remember the steps to this method on the fly I have developed an acronym, SEEC. Like go SEEC out that hottie! Without further ado…
1. Smile
A smile is the universal signal of friendliness. The act of smiling itself, even if it is a fake smile is known to release endorphins, since emotions are contagious, if he sees you smile at him he is likely to smile back at you, which in turn will trigger his endorphins to release and cause him to associate that good feeling with you.
2. Eye Contact
While a smile certainly makes you look more attractive to him it will only have its intended effect if he knows that you are smiling at him, not just in general. If you want to take it even a step further, make eye contact first then pause and while maintaining eye contact go from a neutral face to a smile. This makes him feel even more special because its clear that you wouldn’t just smile at anyone you are smiling at and because of him.
3. Enthusiasm
This may seem obvious but it is an easy one to forget and overlooked. It is human nature to want to protect ourselves from rejection, which is why a lot of times I will see girls attempt this technique but in a half assed way. I get it that you don’t want to be rejected after giving it your all, but you have to think about it from his point of view, you have not even said anything to him, he is the one doing all the work and hence taking the majority of the risk for rejection in this interaction. If you don’t show enough enthusiasm or intent in both your smile and your eye contact your chances of him making an approach go down dramatically, he doesn’t want to be rejected anymore then you do!
4. Confidence
This trick takes confidence for sure. You must believe when you do it that he will come talk to you when you give the signal. Even if you don’t believe it, fake it until you make and it and trust that you will make it. One more tip I have is to practice this technique as much as possible, it doesn’t have to be on someone you want to date or anything but just practice summoning every guy you can over, This way you will be adequately prepared when Mr. Right walks into your life.
