Going from the talking stage to becoming exclusive to finally being in a relationship can take some serious work and patience, but when that happens, it feels great. Nothing is better than knowing that someone else loves you just as much as your friends and family do and want to be part of your life in a way more than just friends.
However, sometimes that talking stage can seem to last way too long. If you two have been talking every day for some time now, seem to be invested in each other’s lives and are catching feelings for one another you just might be in an “almost” relationship.
Here are some tips and tricks for you to find out if you’re in an “almost” relationship and what to do from there.
Define An “Almost” Relationship
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Everyone knows that feeling when you start talking to someone, it’s exciting, new and romantic. You tell all your friends about this person and really just can’t get enough of them. So you continue to talk to them, and things seem to be progressing, but some more time goes by, and now everything seems to be stand still, sound familiar?
If you’ve found yourself in this situation, you most likely are in what is called an “almost” relationship. An “almost” relationship means you’re “developing a connection with someone only to have it fizzle out before it has a chance to really take off,” according to an article from Bolde.
You find yourselves texting each other all day, sharing intimate details about yourself and really catching feelings, to only have it end before you had the chance to even date.
Could Your “Almost” Relationship Transition To A Real Relationship?
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Before you jump the gun and decide to either break it off or take that next step to ask yourself if you could really see this turning into something more. Try listing all the pros and cons of this fling and see which weighs out the other. There has to be some reason why you two haven’t made it official yet, and you need to know the real reason why.
Just because you’ve been talking to this person for some time now and have invested a lot of yourself already doesn’t mean you are obligated to commit. If the other person doesn’t seem to be ready or just wants to keep egging you on, move along and do what’s best for you.
There could also be a chance that they’re too nervous to ask you first or maybe they think you’re not ready, the best way to handle that is by keeping your communication open and honest and speak your mind.
Think About Your Needs First
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No matter what situation you’re in when it comes to this “almost” relationship, always remember you come first. Let’s face it, you’re not in a relationship, and you don’t owe anything to this person, it may sound harsh, but it’s the truth.
If things don’t seem to be moving in the direction, you want it to, or you just have had enough and find yourself fizzling out of lust it’s completely OK to move on. If you do decide to move on, don’t just ghost them, it’s vital for you to still have the “break-up” conversation even if you two weren’t officially dating.
Be Direct & Honest With What You Want
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The most important part of a relationship is communication, and more importantly, open and honest communication. If you feel like you’re ready to take the next step but the other person hasn’t made the first move, do it yourself. Tell the other person how you honestly feel, it might come back to bite you and not be what you want, but other times it might be just what you two needed.
No matter if this “almost” relationship works out or not, it’s always important to speak your mind and let the other person know how you feel. Even though this is much easier said than done and it takes some courage to do so, it will ultimately pay off in the end.
Whatever is meant to be will be, right?
