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Mom-shaming is very prominent on the internet. Mommy shamers are everywhere. They’re leaving comments on your favorite celebrities posts (Chrissy Teigen consistently clapbacks at mom shamers), writing blog posts and sharing problematic ideologies on social media.
The most recent case of mommy shaming is from The Transformed Wife’s Facebook page. They shared a flowchart that pits working moms and stay at home moms against each other and shames working mothers. Most of The Transformed Wife’s posts are similar and encourage women to be submissive and serve their husband and children. This flowchart is very aligned to this page’s voice.
The end of the flowchart for working moms ends with, “Her life is falling apart. She doesn’t feel like she’s a good wife or mother.” While the end for stay at home moms is, “Her life is fulfilling. Her husband and children rise up and call her blessed!”
The post has over 1,200 shares, 1,800 comments and 2,200 reactions. The chart is quite controversial and has caused an intense discussion in the comments.
Many moms are pointing out how shaming the flowchart is to working moms. The flowchart has no positive benefits to working moms and only displays negatives.
One Facebook user commented, “Question. If I stay home, who’s going to pay my bills? Cause I’m a highly trained specialist in my field and make the majority of our income… Where is your “Roof over Head” vs. “Freezing to Death” option? Can I have a good bedtime with my child if she doesn’t have a bed?”
Many people pointed out that many families can’t afford to be a single income house and being a stay at home mom is a luxury.
“These days your average family can barely scrape by with two incomes,” one person posted. “Forget about one. If a man makes enough money for a woman to be a housewife and she wants to be one, then fine. But it’s just not a realistic option for most.”
Another user wrote, “This is a giant pile of mom-shaming B.B. It’s also completely false.”
One user pointing out how running this blog is a job, therefore she’s not even following her own flowchart.
“Where are your children while you are running this sit and blogging on the other…or is this not considered a job? LOL,” the person commented.
While stay at home moms pointed out the inaccuracy of their side of the problematic flowcharts. Many commented that even though they stay at home their constantly tired and worn out by their kids.
“I’m a stay at home mom and I’m not home all day and we eat out a lot. My five sons all play sports. I’m tired,” someone commented. “My husband wishes we had more intimacy. I volunteer, I go to school. I use to work part time too. Who cares?!! As long as you are doing your best.”
Other Facebook users pointed out that if the husband/father helped out this flowchart would be very different.
“Hmmm almost seems like if your husband also helped when he got home from work and on the weekends, you could both work if you wanted/needed to.”
Basically, all moms, stay at home and working, are going on on this blog and flowchart. What do you think about the chart?
