Jasmine R.

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Dec 12, 2013

How To Deal When a Guy Is Having Issues In the Bedroom [Sexy Time]

Guys are generally expected to always be willing and able to have sex, and it can be a blow to the self-esteem to be rejected for any reason. However, you shouldn't take that out on the guy.

Dec 5, 2013

Why Are Ladies More Into Same-Sex Experimenting Than Dudes Are? [Sexy Time]

In real life, I'm more ambivalent about inviting someone else into the bedroom, but in hypersexualized fantasy life, I'm all about having a threesome with another girl.

Nov 28, 2013

This Thanksgiving I’m Choosing Food Over Sex [Sexy Time]

Turkey, mashed potatoes, macaroni and cheese, an obligatory spoonful of stuffing, challah, pie. Also, since today is my birthday as well, I have plans to get deeply intimate with a cake. So...between all that plus watching the Thanksgiving episodes of Gossip Girl, I don't think there's any time to get frisky with the boyfriend.

Nov 21, 2013

Sorry Not Sorry, Being A Tease is Fun [Sexy Time]

Everyone has the right to place boundaries wherever they want, and I feel like part of being a mature sexually active adult is being aware that no one is ever obligated to be completely available to you.

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Nov 14, 2013

How To Introduce Toys Into The Bedroom [Sexy Time]

So sometimes sex gets dull. That's just the nature of doing something over and over and over again. Naturally, we do all kinds of things to keep sex exciting, from dirty talk to role play to trying different positions and locations. Then, of course, there are toys

I’d Totally Do James Deen On Camera for Attention [Sexy Time]

As long as you're not engaging in self-destructive behavior that leaves you feeling disgusting or worthless, and as long as you're treating your partner with respect, I don't see any problems with having sex for reasons other than sharing a mutual attraction.

Nov 7, 2013

How To Successfully Hook Up On Halloween [Sexy Time]

If you're one of those shy-but-horny girls who finds it difficult getting it in on a typical party night (or if you're just DTF), you have absolutely no excuse to go home untouched tonight.

Oct 31, 2013

Everyone’s Kink Is Boring To Me These Days [Sexy Time]

I've accidentally become a pro bono therapist/life coach to people in my life because I can listen to any of their problems and generally keep a poker face and I can easily offer non-judgmental sentiments.

Oct 24, 2013

Oct 17, 2013

A Pep Talk For Anyone Going Through A Dry Spell [Sexy Time]

You're not a lesser person just because you're not in a relationship.

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Oct 10, 2013

You Don’t Have To Swallow [Sexy Time]

The element of surprise is not always fun, you know?

Oct 3, 2013

I’m Having a Sexual Existential Crisis – Thanks, Tumblr [Sexy Time]

I can't help but wonder how brainwashed I've been and whether or not my preferences are really my preferences or if I've just mindlessly accepted things because it was easy.

Sep 26, 2013

How To Initiate Sex When You’re A Woman [Sexy Time]

Initiating can be a daunting task, but it's actually really simple. The worst case scenario isn't that terrible, and the potential payoff is pretty amazing.

Sep 19, 2013

In Defense of Being Uptight [Sexy Time]

Women are often socialized to be flexible, passive, and basically total pushovers. We're expected to put everyone before ourselves because that's the feminine and nurturing thing to do.

Sep 12, 2013

3 Ways To Deal With Being Confronted With a Kink You’re Not Into [Sexy Time]

Being able to navigate awkward conversations with your partner is a really important skill. It takes courage to open up about fantasies and being sympathetic and not freaking out when someone reveals something you find unappealing is key to diminishing the awkwardness.

Sep 5, 2013

I Can’t Bring My BF to the Big O [Sexy Time]

Tons of women have awkward stories about guys who were definitely sprinters as opposed to marathoners. But there's an inverse to this problem - the guy who can't or doesn't come in a timely fashion.

Aug 29, 2013

I Had To Give Up One of My Favorite Sex Acts [Sexy Time]

It's definitely a tiny bit heartbreaking when something that brings you pleasure ultimately doesn't agree with you.

Aug 23, 2013

5 Things I’d Do If I Were Single [Sexy Time]

I love having a boyfriend. I love the stability. I love the comfort. I love the support and the casual movie nights and the snuggles and all of that great stuff. But, on occasion, I do daydream about what it would be like to be single.

Aug 15, 2013

“Blurred Lines” Annoys Me, But Probably Not Why You Think [Sexy Time]

After two decades of listening to pop music, I'm increasingly desensitized to the grimy messages that are perpetuated. That said, what irks me about the song is the delineation between "good girls" and "girls who openly love sex."

Aug 8, 2013

5 Reasons I’ve Said No To Sex, Illustrated In GIFs

Sometimes it's because I'm in a dark mental place and arousal is the last thing on my mind. And reasons are maybe less sympathetic.

Aug 5, 2013

It’s The 10 Year Anniversary of The OC! Here’s What I Learned From Rewatching The Pilot

Are you ready to feel ancient? It was exactly 10 years ago that The OC premiered and stole our hearts away with the drama, the romance, the music, and of course, Seth Cohen.

Aug 1, 2013

I Look Sad and Dudes Are So Turned On By It

I have incurred a gnarly cut on my lip via a midnight bathroom run in the dark gone terribly awry. I've also been hit on more in the last five days than in the preceding six months.

Jul 25, 2013

I Don’t Think I Could Be Attracted to a Sexually Submissive Guy [Sexy Time]

For as long as I can remember, my daydreams/fantasies regarding sex always featured me in a mildly submissive role while the guy was always the more experienced/dominant one.

Jul 18, 2013

On Calling Guys Daddy and Why It Makes Me Uncomfortable [Sexy Time]

I try not to judge others' sexual proclivities, I really don't. But every time I hear someone refer to the guy they're dating or interested in as "daddy", I can't help but cringe.

Jul 11, 2013

Really? Promiscuous Women Don’t Like Other Promiscuous Women

Upon first read, it's so easy to scoff at these hypocrites and feel so superior because, thank Beysus, I'm so much more enlightened than that.

Jul 6, 2013

10 Pieces of Excellent Life Advice…from Drag Queens

Is it totally unsurprising that RuPaul's Drag Race contestants tend to have more personality in one acrylic nail than most people have in their entire bodies? Exactly.

Jul 4, 2013

5 Sexy Things to Do for the Fourth of July

While no one generally associates today with being sexually charged, I totally believe any occasion can be sexy if you're down to be a little creatively silly.

Jun 27, 2013

I’m Just Going to Say It: Sexting is Overrated

During one really unfortunate lonely summer, I sent nudes to dudes on Craigslist. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I used to send him nudes and explicit texts and emails. That all started to taper off once we became more serious and it was a given I'd be seeing him regularly.

Jun 20, 2013

“Crazy Girls Are Better In Bed”: The Sane Girl’s Guide To Being Sexual Dynamite

There are certain traits found in these so-called crazy girls that are actually completely rational and should be embraced by everyone.

Jun 13, 2013

That Time I Convinced My Boyfriend to Use An Ice Cube as a Sex Toy

Of course, I'd heard of using ice cubes as a means of foreplay, but actually sticking it in one's vagina? My first reaction was of abject horror, but I found myself idly thinking about it the other day and I started to become intrigued.

Jun 6, 2013

What’s Your “Number”? Who Cares!?

We as a society have these arbitrary notions of what an appropriate number of sex partners is, so the expectation is that anyone who thinks they fall outside of the standard deviation is probably going to lie. The trope goes that guys will exaggerate, ladies will omit, and all inexperienced people will pad their sex resume.

May 30, 2013

Just a Friendly Reminder to Stop Faking It

It's kind of hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that there are still people out there who are faking orgasms. If you are one of them - stop. Please.

May 23, 2013

The Secret Tip for Having Mind-Blowing Sex! [Sexy Time]

I was scouring the web looking for inspiration for this week's column, and after the billionth "How to Blow Your Man's Mind" article, I reached the zenith of irritation. Not only are all of those articles redundant (the answer is always anal or BJs), heterosexist (not all ladies date guys, and lesbians do read mainstream media sites), but they're so disempowering.

May 9, 2013

If It Weren’t for the Internet, I Probably Would’ve Died A Virgin [Sexy Time]

I was semi-convinced I was going to die un-penetrated and unappreciated. And then I ran into the welcoming/terrifying arms of online dating and those fears became a distant memory.

May 2, 2013

Is It Really So Bad To Have Sex “Too Early”? [Sexy Time]

I can understand withholding sex if you're trying to weed out people who are interested in getting to know you as a person rather than just trying to get to know your vagina. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who out there who misrepresent their intentions and pretend they want to pursue something serious when that's not the case at all.

Apr 25, 2013

Should You Tell Someone That They’re Bad in Bed? [Sexy Time]

I was brunching with some ladies the other day, and naturally the conversation turned to guys and sex. Unfortunately, some of the girls have been experiencing some really bad sexual juju.

Apr 18, 2013

5 Ways To Cure Boredom While Performing Oral [Sexy Time]

I can only spend so much time alternating between making eye contact with my boyfriend and staring at his business before I start to get kind of bored. So I've come up with a few ways to subtly stymie any boredom that may crop up.