Guys are generally expected to always be willing and able to have sex, and it can be a blow to the self-esteem to be rejected for any reason. However, you shouldn't take that out on the guy.
In real life, I'm more ambivalent about inviting someone else into the bedroom, but in hypersexualized fantasy life, I'm all about having a threesome with another girl.
Turkey, mashed potatoes, macaroni and cheese, an obligatory spoonful of stuffing, challah, pie. Also, since today is my birthday as well, I have plans to get deeply intimate with a cake. So...between all that plus watching the Thanksgiving episodes of Gossip Girl, I don't think there's any time to get frisky with the boyfriend.
Everyone has the right to place boundaries wherever they want, and I feel like part of being a mature sexually active adult is being aware that no one is ever obligated to be completely available to you.
Nov 21, 2013
So sometimes sex gets dull. That's just the nature of doing something over and over and over again. Naturally, we do all kinds of things to keep sex exciting, from dirty talk to role play to trying different positions and locations. Then, of course, there are toys
Nov 14, 2013
As long as you're not engaging in self-destructive behavior that leaves you feeling disgusting or worthless, and as long as you're treating your partner with respect, I don't see any problems with having sex for reasons other than sharing a mutual attraction.
Nov 7, 2013
If you're one of those shy-but-horny girls who finds it difficult getting it in on a typical party night (or if you're just DTF), you have absolutely no excuse to go home untouched tonight.
I've accidentally become a pro bono therapist/life coach to people in my life because I can listen to any of their problems and generally keep a poker face and I can easily offer non-judgmental sentiments.
You're not a lesser person just because you're not in a relationship.
I can't help but wonder how brainwashed I've been and whether or not my preferences are really my preferences or if I've just mindlessly accepted things because it was easy.
Initiating can be a daunting task, but it's actually really simple. The worst case scenario isn't that terrible, and the potential payoff is pretty amazing.
Women are often socialized to be flexible, passive, and basically total pushovers. We're expected to put everyone before ourselves because that's the feminine and nurturing thing to do.
Being able to navigate awkward conversations with your partner is a really important skill. It takes courage to open up about fantasies and being sympathetic and not freaking out when someone reveals something you find unappealing is key to diminishing the awkwardness.