At any give time since I was about 14, I thought I was ready to fall in love. Through high school crushes, adult heartbreaks and many others in between, I always stuck to the idea that I wanted to fall in love and be in a real relationship but yet seemed to be jinxed. Unlucky. A hopeless disaster. I even had a few years where the old song "But Not For Me" was my theme song. I laughed about it with friends, joked about it with strangers and secretly would cry about it alone.
Whether it was guy friends that I had mad crushes on or boys I was kissing and actually wanted it to be more, I found it so much easier to hope that they liked me. I would sit around and wait for that romantic movie moment where they blurt out their feelings in a fumbling Micael Cera-esque fashion, making sure to include an adorable listing of “all the things they loved about me” that included the perfect mix of qualities that make me feel smart, funny and pretty.
Today, Brittany from The College Crush is going to tell you what you shouldn't be doing come February 14th. That is if you want to maintain your sanity, dignity, friends and chances at love down the road. Which, you know, you should.
Feb 10, 2011
Whether you are single or taken, it all plays out the same: in disappointment that someone else has let you down yet again. Why not get down to what Valentine's Day is really about - love - and instead of waiting for someone else to make you happy, why not do it yourself?
Feb 9, 2011
So did everyone see the Hallmark commercial plugging Valentine's Day? If you haven't seen it, you'll love this: "Valentine's Day isn't about I love you, it's about I love us." Commercials like these can make any single woman want to bang her head against a heart-shaped box of Russell Stover chocolates.
Feb 8, 2011
Love, schmove. When you are a couple, Valentine’s Day is one of the most exciting days of the year. When you are single, you sometimes want to throw things at those happy couples. However, the one thing we forget is that Valentine’s Day is not just about couples. At it's core, it's a holiday that is simply about love.
Without asking for it, you have become trailblazers for a new world of dating. The biggest problem is that without any guidelines, you are inventing the rules for dating with technology and mostly learning the hard way….from your own mistakes. Well, CollegeCandy and I started talking and we are here to help.
Ah resolutions… Once the hangover is done by the 2nd and you are seriously bored at home, nothing seems more perfect than to sit down, contemplate your life and make some resolutions for 2011. With passion in heart and pen in hand we write down our best intentions for the New Year promising ourselves that “Things Will Be Different!" The problem is that most of the time by January 5th that new fitness program, study routine or other resolution has already been kicked to the curb.
I see college women coming to me all the time for answers, secrets, tips and tricks, ANYTHING to get love all figured out. They want me to get into their latest hottie's mind and tell them exactly what he is thinking to understand why he is or is not calling, texting, treating her right, or downright leaving her not only on the crazy train, but driving it loud and proud.
Since I started coaching college women, I feel like I am living in a world of stories about drunken hook-ups, walks of shame and disappointment. Understand, I am not judging AT ALL. Hooking-up is part of the college culture and can be a lot of fun.
At any give time since I was about 14, I thought I was ready to fall in love. Through high school crushes, adult heartbreaks and many others in between, I always stuck to the idea that I wanted to fall in love and be in a real relationship but yet seemed to be jinxed. Unlucky. A hopeless disaster.