As much as I enjoy blabbing my mouth off from time to time, I've recently realized (with the help of Ms. Kira Sabin) that I need to pay attention to one of the most important aspects of dating there is: body language. It's so easy to close people off with your body. And the kicker? You don't even notice you're doing it!
Now, let's be honest for a second. In this day and age, everyone is hyper-connected so it's become totally normal and expected to be texting and calling and Facebooking no matter where we are and who we're with. But how are you supposed to apply the basics (smile + eye contact) when you're constantly looking at your stinkin' phone?!
Now that we've got our smiles down it's time to move on to a big next step: eye contact. Eye contact with a smile is the easiest way for someone to notice you and know that it is good to make the approach. Remember, if guys think they are going to be shut down, they just won't go there. It also exudes mucho confidence.
Everyone assumes the most attractive people get approached, but really it is the most confident and happy. Nothing is more powerful or attractive than a smile. Passersby (and that hottie in your Stats lecture) will wonder why you are so happy and want to find out. Who doesn’t want to hang out with the people who are having the most fun?
Oct 18, 2010
Ever have that friend that gets approached all the time? Sure, she may be pretty, smart or flirty but for some reason guys flock to her like white on rice. It may you leave you scratching your head and muttering under your breath “what is SO great about her?” You probably have friends that are funnier, smarter and prettier, yet she gets the guys.
Oct 14, 2010
We've all been there. The guy from Chem who you have been crushin’ on for a bit looks even better 5 drinks in. You are laughing, flirting and can not believe how much you have in common. What?! He likes Taio too? This is clearly destiny!
I still get a little nostalgic this time of year thinking back to the beginning of my freshman year. Over the first few months Ann (my roommate, bestie and partner in crime) and I dominated in getting to know new people. Somehow through classes, our brand new social life and dorm we were meeting people left, right and center.
His name was Tyler. He was the roommate of one of my good college friends and from the moment I met him I was smitten. The witty banter was perfect and it took about 10 hours (and a few drinks) before we were hooking up. After that near perfect weekend we walked to my car, kissed like we invented it and he said he was crazy about me.
OK ladies, we need to have a little tough love talk today. I hate to say it but sometimes I am a little confused by my own gender. As a coach I try to remain really neutral. I truly have met some amazing single men and women who make me want to be a better person. But the stories I have been hearing lately! Yikes.
Have you ever met someone and wished you had a crystal ball to see into the future? Would there be a date? Would he like your friends? Would your parents like him? Could a relationship form? Does he have the potential to be “the one”?
When I was in high school one of my friends was the most sought-after girl in school. I had other friends that were prettier, smarter and nicer but boys were crazy for her. It took me a little while, but I finally figured out why she was constantly asked out, in a relationship or every guy’s dream girl. She was approachable.
Something happens from the time when we are kids to adults. We learn that if we want to be successful at a career, buy a house, save for retirement or achieve any major milestone in life we have to work for it. Yet, when I talk to people about finding “the one,” they want it to happen naturally. Organically. They will “know it when they see it.”