Tuffy Luv

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Jun 4, 2013

Tuffy Luv Sez Goodbye

Ask Tuffy Luv has been running on College Candy since February 2008 (!!!) and it's been super rad. Thanks for the good times, and for all your crazy questions.

May 28, 2013

I’m Dating a Guy Who Has Never Even Tried to Kiss Me

So I've been dating this guy for a few months now and he still hasn't kissed me. He's never had a real girlfriend before so he's really shy and tentative about doing physical stuff with me.

May 21, 2013

Bachelorette Partying 101 [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I have to go to a bachelorette party, but I've never been to one. What are we going to do? Where are we likely to go? What should I wear?

May 14, 2013

Wondering What to Wear to a Dating Event? [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I am going out to a event tomorrow at Nordic Scandinavian Bar and it's been a while since I hit town. Can you please help me figure out the perfect thing to wear?

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Apr 30, 2013

What to Do When the Sadness Becomes a Little Too Much [Ask Tuffy Luv]

We all get sad sometimes. It's natural. And it's okay. Look, we live in a culture where we're supposed to be happy ALL THE TIME. And that's so unnatural. Sadness motivates us. Sadness helps us become empathetic. Sadness helps us learn to become better people.

What To Do When Your Roommate Skypes Her GF All Night [Ask Tuffy Luv]

My roommate's LDR is driving me crazy. She's obsessed with her girlfriend which I get -- I love my girlfriend too. But all this girl does is talk on Skype all night. We're in college and we are right next to each other in the same room. I need to sleep too!

Apr 23, 2013

Drop It Like It’s Hot: Getting Rid of Negative Friends [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I had a falling out with a really old friend, like elementary school old, about six months ago. She did something really shitty to me and then apologized but it was really the last straw.

Apr 16, 2013

What to Do When You Hate Your Perfect Boyfriend [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I don't know what to do. We've been dating for three years and now we're about to finish college and I just can't stand it anymore.

Mar 26, 2013

Mar 19, 2013

Tuffy Luv Tells Lil Sis to Behave

I lost the trust of my older brother. I told him I wouldn't date his friends and then I dated his best friend behind his back. The problem is, too, that we had sex in his bed once.

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Mar 12, 2013

Can I Keep Him In the Friend Zone? [Ask Tuffy Luv]

He and I have been really close friends for two years now, we get on really well and I like him a lot but I don't want to go further if our friendship will be ruined and we break up then never talk again.

Mar 5, 2013

Two Guys, One Girl, Zero Matches [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I’m about to graduate from college and I need your help, because I’m terrible at relationships and the time is now or never. I have two guy friends and I like them both in different ways. Like, like like.

Feb 26, 2013

Tuffy Love Mixes Work and Romance

I don't want to lose an opportunity with a guy that I'm really into, but I don't want to mess things up either! What should I do?

Feb 15, 2013

Tuffy Luv Deals With Your Friend’s Breakup

A week or so ago, my friend's boyfriend of three and a half years broke up with her citing that he "wanted to experience college and allow her to do the same." Every day last week consisted of her crying.

Feb 5, 2013

Tuffy Luv Has First Date Ideas

I asked this guy out on a date and now I'm freaking out because I have no idea where to take him. I want to seem cool so I don't want to just take him for dinner and a movie. Ideas?

Jan 29, 2013

Help! I Sexted My Best Guy Friend [Ask Tuffy Luv]

There's always been a mutual sense of harmless flirting to our friendship, however, as we are both single. About a week ago, we were texting each other and the typical flirting began. But then the tone changed and we were suddenly sexting!

Jan 22, 2013

Can A Princess Date a Pauper? [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I'm afraid of bringing him to work parties and having my co-workers ask what he does. I'm afraid of bringing him around my friends with their highly successful fiancés - not because of his lack of 'experience', but because being with someone like that has never been an option for me, and it's not really who I am.

Jan 15, 2013

This Guy Does NOT Date Feminists..Huh? [Ask Tuffy Luv]

Recently I was on a date with this guy I've been seeing for a few weeks, and we were really getting along until I mentioned that I was a feminist. He started telling with me how I shouldn't be one and that he's not one because he believes in equality between both sexes.

Jan 8, 2013

Why Does Sex Always Hurt Me? [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I don't know what is wrong with me, but I think my vagina is too tight/small. Although I have been having sex for almost a year, it is still often painful afterwards (if not during), and it snaps back to it's original state.

Dec 25, 2012

Ask Him Out Already!! [Ask Tuffy Luv]

At first my girlfriends were pretty convinced that he liked me, but after our movie date (if it even was a date), they aren't sure. When we parted ways, we both said we had a great time and that we hoped to see each other soon, but I didn't get a text afterwards. Is it worth pining after this boy, or should I take my "three day rule" girlfriend's advice and just get over it?

Dec 18, 2012

Have I Never Had an Orgasm? [Ask Tuffy Luv]

I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but I don't think I've had an orgasm in my life. I've had sex with 3 guys to date but I still haven't got that feeling... Is there something fundamentally wrong with me? Or do I simply don't have an idea of what an orgasm feels like??! Help me, I wanna be wowed!!!

Nov 27, 2012

Tuffy Luv Sez: Platonic?! More like NO.

I hung out with one guy for about 8 hours; we just talked and really connected, and he told me how great a person I was and how I was so different from other girls, blah blah blah. We didn't do anything but talk and the conversation was great; I thought for sure I'd found a great friend.

Nov 20, 2012

FWB or WTF!? [Ask Tuffy Luv]

Sometimes it seems like we may be "talking" and others it seems like he just wants a friendship, and I'm honestly fine with either. I want to know where we're at so that I don't get unrealistic expectations, but I don't want to bring it up and potentially screw up a good friendship.

Nov 6, 2012

Cuddling From the Friend-Zone [Ask Tuffy Luv]

One day I found out through one of his friends that he was seeing someone else...I was pretty heartbroken. I confronted him. He admitted up to it and said that he only saw me as a friend. And me, desperately trying to save face, said the same.

Oct 30, 2012

Tuffy Love Starts Your NDR (No Distance Relationship) Off Right

I told him I didn't want to live with anyone until I was engaged first. I'm wondering if I am making it too hard on the poor guy - he is moving 1,000 miles away from home to be with me, and I'm making him find an apartment, find his own roommates, while we both know that he'll probably be over at my place all the time.

Oct 23, 2012

Tuffy Luv Helps You Dress For the Body You Have

Yes, it's nice to be skinny, but whenever my best friend and I are shopping, I can't help but be jealous, because shirts always fit her nicer because she's a size 34C AND she's as skinny as I am.

Oct 16, 2012

Tuffy Luv Hates Your Friend

I've had a friend since 6th grade who drives everybody crazy. She's very judgmental and annoying to be around, and she doesn't ever think the problem is her. She was one of my closest friends, but everyone else in our group has dropped her.

Oct 2, 2012

Tuffy Luv Sez: Break Up For Good

Recently she and I have been seeing each other frequently again. We've come to enjoy one another's company without the fighting and bickering that was involved when we were together.

Sep 25, 2012

Tuffy Luv Sez: Your Best Friend Ain’t A Best Friend

So I know you are an expert on love, but this is a friendship-kind-of-love dilemma. So a little background. Last year I had a very crazy, very mean roommate who harassed me and abused me until I told her I was moving out, at which point she publicly threatened to kill me.

Sep 18, 2012

Tuffy Luv Sez: One Little Lie Gets Big

When I first got together with my girlfriend, I told her I'd only slept with one other girl and one guy. When we first got together, I thought it would just be a short-term thing, because we're in college and that's what you do. Well it turns out she and I really love each other...

Sep 11, 2012

Tuffy Luv Sez: What Do You Mean What Do Guys Like?!!?!?!

Ooooh my unbridled rage is held back only by the sadness of your sign-off!!! Okay, for realz. This kind of pisses me off. Because, like. Number 1: GUYS DON'T JUST LIKE ONE KIND OF GIRL.

Aug 28, 2012

Tuffy Luv Says Hos Over Bros

I'm in a very uncomfortable situation at the moment. My best friend has liked our mutual good guy friend for some months now, and I actually met him through her. The problem is he likes me, and she's the one who told me this information.

Aug 21, 2012

Tuffy Luv Is Actually Sympathetic — This Guy SUCKS

Last summer, after my birthday party, my best guy friend kissed me and confessed his feelings for me. This wasn't entirely a surprise, and I admit I let the kiss happen, because I wanted to see if it would spark the sexual feelings which were the only things lacking to keep me from instantly diving into a relationship with such a wonderful guy.

Aug 14, 2012

Tuffy Luv Tells You What To Wear If You’re a Petite Hourglass Shape

I work out and am proud of my body but I don't get it. How am I supposed to dress when everything is made for people who are taller and less curvy than me?

Aug 7, 2012

Tuffy Luv Settles the Score

I want you to settle something for me and my friend. She's upset with me because she says I'm hard to make plans with. She wants to make plans a week in advance just to go have dinner.

Jul 31, 2012

10 Great Dates From Tuffy Luv

Dear Tuffy Luv, I'm supposed to plan a date for my new-ish boyfriend (2 months, holla!). Help!

Jul 24, 2012

Tuffy Luv Sez: Tattletales No Have Friends

My best friend just moved in with her boyfriend and I feel left out. We always used to hang out together. Now she mostly hangs out with him. We all go to the same school so I try to still have lunch with her and everything but it isn't the same.