Ask Tuffy Luv has been running on College Candy since February 2008 (!!!) and it's been super rad. Thanks for the good times, and for all your crazy questions.
So I've been dating this guy for a few months now and he still hasn't kissed me. He's never had a real girlfriend before so he's really shy and tentative about doing physical stuff with me.
I have to go to a bachelorette party, but I've never been to one. What are we going to do? Where are we likely to go? What should I wear?
I am going out to a Match.com event tomorrow at Nordic Scandinavian Bar and it's been a while since I hit town. Can you please help me figure out the perfect thing to wear?
What's the sexiest outfit ever? I have a really hot date with a guy I want to get with and go out with that I've had a crush on forever. What do I wear?
We all get sad sometimes. It's natural. And it's okay. Look, we live in a culture where we're supposed to be happy ALL THE TIME. And that's so unnatural. Sadness motivates us. Sadness helps us become empathetic. Sadness helps us learn to become better people.
Apr 30, 2013
My roommate's LDR is driving me crazy. She's obsessed with her girlfriend which I get -- I love my girlfriend too. But all this girl does is talk on Skype all night. We're in college and we are right next to each other in the same room. I need to sleep too!
Apr 23, 2013
I had a falling out with a really old friend, like elementary school old, about six months ago. She did something really shitty to me and then apologized but it was really the last straw.
Apr 16, 2013
I've gotten some requests for a hair version of the post I wrote about last week regarding natural-looking makeup. Embrace your natural texture, girl. Thick, thin, curly, wavy, kinky, pin straight -- honey, we all need some love.
I recently started wearing makeup (I know, I know. I'm a late bloomer) but I heard guys prefer "the natural look". What does that mean?
I don't know what to do. We've been dating for three years and now we're about to finish college and I just can't stand it anymore.
I lost the trust of my older brother. I told him I wouldn't date his friends and then I dated his best friend behind his back. The problem is, too, that we had sex in his bed once.
He and I have been really close friends for two years now, we get on really well and I like him a lot but I don't want to go further if our friendship will be ruined and we break up then never talk again.
I’m about to graduate from college and I need your help, because I’m terrible at relationships and the time is now or never. I have two guy friends and I like them both in different ways. Like, like like.
I don't want to lose an opportunity with a guy that I'm really into, but I don't want to mess things up either! What should I do?
A week or so ago, my friend's boyfriend of three and a half years broke up with her citing that he "wanted to experience college and allow her to do the same." Every day last week consisted of her crying.
I asked this guy out on a date and now I'm freaking out because I have no idea where to take him. I want to seem cool so I don't want to just take him for dinner and a movie. Ideas?
There's always been a mutual sense of harmless flirting to our friendship, however, as we are both single. About a week ago, we were texting each other and the typical flirting began. But then the tone changed and we were suddenly sexting!
I'm afraid of bringing him to work parties and having my co-workers ask what he does. I'm afraid of bringing him around my friends with their highly successful fiancés - not because of his lack of 'experience', but because being with someone like that has never been an option for me, and it's not really who I am.
Recently I was on a date with this guy I've been seeing for a few weeks, and we were really getting along until I mentioned that I was a feminist. He started telling with me how I shouldn't be one and that he's not one because he believes in equality between both sexes.
I don't know what is wrong with me, but I think my vagina is too tight/small. Although I have been having sex for almost a year, it is still often painful afterwards (if not during), and it snaps back to it's original state.
At first my girlfriends were pretty convinced that he liked me, but after our movie date (if it even was a date), they aren't sure. When we parted ways, we both said we had a great time and that we hoped to see each other soon, but I didn't get a text afterwards. Is it worth pining after this boy, or should I take my "three day rule" girlfriend's advice and just get over it?
I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but I don't think I've had an orgasm in my life. I've had sex with 3 guys to date but I still haven't got that feeling... Is there something fundamentally wrong with me? Or do I simply don't have an idea of what an orgasm feels like??! Help me, I wanna be wowed!!!
What can I do to be more motivated and inspired with my studies? I just don't know what to do. I've tried changing study habits, planning things out, and I've even tried to surround myself with people who have high work ethic and an energetic drive about school.
I hung out with one guy for about 8 hours; we just talked and really connected, and he told me how great a person I was and how I was so different from other girls, blah blah blah. We didn't do anything but talk and the conversation was great; I thought for sure I'd found a great friend.
Sometimes it seems like we may be "talking" and others it seems like he just wants a friendship, and I'm honestly fine with either. I want to know where we're at so that I don't get unrealistic expectations, but I don't want to bring it up and potentially screw up a good friendship.
He asked me out two months ago, and I've had a crush on him for a while. I was happy as could be...for about a month and a half. Then I lost interest. Lost the spark. You know why?
One day I found out through one of his friends that he was seeing someone else...I was pretty heartbroken. I confronted him. He admitted up to it and said that he only saw me as a friend. And me, desperately trying to save face, said the same.
I told him I didn't want to live with anyone until I was engaged first. I'm wondering if I am making it too hard on the poor guy - he is moving 1,000 miles away from home to be with me, and I'm making him find an apartment, find his own roommates, while we both know that he'll probably be over at my place all the time.
Yes, it's nice to be skinny, but whenever my best friend and I are shopping, I can't help but be jealous, because shirts always fit her nicer because she's a size 34C AND she's as skinny as I am.
I've had a friend since 6th grade who drives everybody crazy. She's very judgmental and annoying to be around, and she doesn't ever think the problem is her. She was one of my closest friends, but everyone else in our group has dropped her.
I'm so stressed out!! College and dating are killing me. What can I do to relax?
Recently she and I have been seeing each other frequently again. We've come to enjoy one another's company without the fighting and bickering that was involved when we were together.
So I know you are an expert on love, but this is a friendship-kind-of-love dilemma. So a little background. Last year I had a very crazy, very mean roommate who harassed me and abused me until I told her I was moving out, at which point she publicly threatened to kill me.
When I first got together with my girlfriend, I told her I'd only slept with one other girl and one guy. When we first got together, I thought it would just be a short-term thing, because we're in college and that's what you do. Well it turns out she and I really love each other...
Ooooh my unbridled rage is held back only by the sadness of your sign-off!!! Okay, for realz. This kind of pisses me off. Because, like. Number 1: GUYS DON'T JUST LIKE ONE KIND OF GIRL.