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Oct 14, 2013

How Do I Get Him To Make A Move? [Ask A Dude]

So I've been friends with this guy since my childhood, but lately it seems as if we've become closer. Now that we've grown up I feel that our friendship could develop into something really great.

Oct 7, 2013

Do College Guys Want to Date Curvy Women? [Ask A Dude]

I mean I'm a big girl, but I'm not grossly fat or anything, in fact I play basketball. What I'm trying to get at is, do guys like big girls?

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Sep 30, 2013

“I Don’t See The Perks In Being A Wallflower!” [Ask A Dude]

I told my boyfriend that I barely ever see my friends (by choice) and that I'm just not a small-talk person. I'm not outgoing, I don't have the patience to sit through 3 hours of dinner conversation or a 4 hour birthday party. I just don't care enough.

Sep 23, 2013

Should I Ask Out A Hot, Younger Guy? [Ask A Dude]

Should you ask out a hottie even though he’s four years younger and you think you’re a nottie? YES! YES! YES!

Sep 16, 2013

Is He Serious About Leaving His GF For Me? [Ask A Dude]

You’re in a situation where you can help home wreck if things get sexy and look like a complete ass if things get sticky.

Sep 9, 2013

Does My Ex Want To Get back Together Or Is He Messing With My Mind? [Ask A Dude]

I want to hang out with him all the time because I hope that we could get back together. But I don't want to get my hopes up for no reason. I'm really confused by his behavior. I don't know if he's flirting with me again, or not. I don't want to misread things and make it awkward.

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Sep 2, 2013

What Do Guys Find Intimidating About Women? [Ask A Dude]

What does it mean when a guy says you're intimidating? A good guy friend of mine I've known for years, we're hanging out at his coming home party, family barbeque/get together thing, and he brings up how he's always been intimidated by me.

He Has Pics of His Ex Everywhere, Is He Still Hung Up On Her? [Ask A Dude]

One thing that irks me is that he always mentions how family comes first and I love that, but when there's a folder on facebook that says "Me and my family" and the only pictures in that folder are of him and his ex...

Aug 26, 2013

Is His Excuse to Break Up With Me Total BS? [Ask A Dude]

If a guy breaks it off with you suddenly after two years and tells you he has family issues, this is bullcrap right? Everyone has issues in life its still no reason or excuse to push people away then he texts every now and again but would take sometimes days to reply which is just plain rude.

Aug 19, 2013

How Do I Get The Sex More Exciting? [Ask A Dude]

My boyfriend and I have been best friends since 7th grade (we are both juniors in college now) and just started dating. It is hands down the best relationship I have ever had. But the sex sucks.

Aug 12, 2013

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Aug 5, 2013

Will He Notice The Extra Pounds? [Ask A Dude]

I hooked up with a guy awhile ago and it was amazing. But, shortly after he had to leave town for work. We've kept in touch, but he's been gone about four months and I've put on a bit of weight. He's coming back soon and has said he'd like to reconnect, but I'm worried about what he'll think.

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Jul 29, 2013

Why’s He Hiding His Ex From Me? [Ask A Dude]

He put a lock on his phone, deleted me from Facebook, and will only text when I leave the room, but when I come back in he immediately put his phone away.

Jul 22, 2013

Does He Talk About The Bad Sex With His Friends? [Ask A Dude]

Last night my boyfriend told me he doesn't enjoy me being on top, or in his words: "You suck at being on top".

Jul 15, 2013

He Seems Into Me But Why Won’t He Make A Move? [Ask A Dude]

Thing is I feel like no matter how many hints I put out there that I want him to make a move, he refuses to ever do so, therefore I'm ever so confused as to where he stands and how he feels about me.

Jul 8, 2013

Why’d He Disappear? [Ask A Dude]

Basically, I went out with a guy from Uni on a couple of dates. We got along really well and would text and chat heaps. He told me he liked me, and started to casually mention things like "we should go to...." (things that were a few months away as well!). It's now been like a month since I have heard from him.

Jul 1, 2013

Should I Lose My Virginity to My Ex? [Ask A Dude]

I am a virgin and I want to do something with a guy that I don’t care about "like that", I want to learn from sex, I want to be good at it, but I don’t want it to be with someone I don’t know (because of potential STD risks).

Jun 24, 2013

Can We Be More Than Slambuddies? [Ask A Dude]

I got to a point when I wanted sex, but not with someone I wasn't dating...and he didn't want to date me. Finally I caved. So now we're having sex but he's not cuddling anymore. Sometimes I feel like we really are friends and sometimes I just feel like a slambuddy.

Jun 17, 2013

How Do I Get Him To Be More Adventurous In Bed? [Ask A Dude]

We have had sex a couple times already and it was that sweet, loving kind of sex. Don't get me wrong, it was wonderful, but I was wondering what the best way is to see if your boyfriend would consider being a little naughtier in the sheets (ex: dirty talking?) without looking like a total sl00t?

Jun 10, 2013

How Much Do Men Think About The Sex They Just Had? [Ask A Dude]

I want to ask you something that I can't seem to find an answer to on the internet. Here it goes: Do guys think about the sex they recently had? I mean, if a guy had sex, let's say yesterday (and it wasn't terrible) does he recount the encounter in his head, or is the whole experience lost as soon as he's finished?

Jun 3, 2013

What Do I Do About My BF’s Fear of Commitment? [Ask A Dude]

I know commitment is a scary thing for him (as he's admitted this to me), so why in the world did he decide he wanted commitment but now seems to be running?? I love him and really hope that we can work this out but I'm willing to let him go, if that is what I need to do.

May 20, 2013

What Should I Get Him For Graduation? [Ask A Dude]

I want to get my boyfriend a gift for graduation, but I'm stumped. My budget would preferably be below $100 since I'm a poor student myself, so fancy watches and gadgets might not be the most realistic for me.

May 13, 2013

Why Can’t Guys Admit They Like Spooning? [Ask A Dude]

Never have I encountered a guy who threw his hands up and told me to get away when I went in for a cuddle sesh, and I've even woken up in the middle of the night not a few time to find that my bedmate wound himself around me all on his own.

May 6, 2013

Why Is My Boyfriend Treating Our Relationship As Though It’s a Chore? [Ask A Dude]

Since a couple months ago, however, I've noted that my boyfriend has started to view our relationship as a sentence that he's locked into. When I tell him one of my friends is having a birthday dinner, he drags his feet and makes up excuses as to why he can't make it.

Apr 29, 2013

What Should All Women Know About Men? [Ask A Dude]

With women there are a few rules of thumb that generally hold true -- "I'm not jealous" means we're definitely at least a little jealous; nothing comes between us, our extra-comfy pajamas and our favorite TV show; we will always stop to pet a cute puppy. What would you say are some universal truths for men?

Apr 22, 2013

Do His Actions Speak Louder Than His Words? [Ask A Dude]

I feel like if a guy is telling me he's not interested, but can still be sold on sex, I should probably just accept that he's "not that into it" instead of telling myself he's just scared of commitment or is putting up walls.

Apr 15, 2013

Do “We Have To Talk?” [Ask A Dude]

Why is asking to talk to a guy a big deal? Recently I texted my FWB that I wanted to talk to him, and asked if he had a minute later on in the day. He immediately shot back, "What's it about? Am I in trouble?"

Apr 8, 2013

Am I Too Young For Him? [Ask A Dude]

I really like this guy and he says he likes me a lot too, but I don't want to open my heart to someone who is just going to be all like, "JK, you're too young for me" in another month.

Apr 1, 2013

How Do I Get Him To Go From FWB To BF? [Ask A Dude]

I'm 23 years old and have known this guy for about 4 years. I'm pretty sure he was into me for a while, but I only recently started to like him. Figures, now he doesn't feel that way about me anymore. What I do know is that he's sexually attracted to me. Besides that, we're still good friends.

Mar 25, 2013

Why Do Guys Sleep With Girls They’re Not Attracted To? [Ask A Dude]

He insisted he still didn't find her attractive, and wasn't really looking to date her. When I asked him how he could possibly be interested in sex with her, he looked at me like I was crazy.

Mar 18, 2013

When Do Men Stop Thinking “Me” and Start Thinking “We”? [Ask a Dude]

Our relationships, in whatever form they take to begin with, always seem to hit the same problem area eventually. The dreaded "gray area". It's where men tend to drag out the dating or hooking up phase, and avoid putting a label on "what we are".

Mar 11, 2013

What Part of Women’s Bodies Do Men Look at During Sex? [Ask A Dude]

I'm pretty secure with my body, but I know there are some areas I could use to tone up. (Shout out to my Kardashian butt!) When I have sex, it's pretty inevitable that my less-firm parts take center stage and I'm worried it's a turn off to guys.

Mar 4, 2013

How Much Do Guys Expect on the First Date? [Ask a Dude]

I've been out on first dates with guys who barely go in for a kiss at the end of the night, and others who can't seem to get my clothes off fast enough.

Feb 25, 2013

What’re the Morning After Rules for a FWB? [Ask A Dude]

Hey Dude! I have a question about proper morning-after protocol. After spending the night with a FWB, how long should...

Feb 18, 2013

Has Texting Improved or Ruined Dating? [Ask A Dude]

Dating is a dance and texting is a brand new routine. You modify some old moves but you’re also creating new ones. The results are mostly the same and based on the same fundamentals, timing and rhythm included. But while the benefits are great, the burns are more severe.

Feb 11, 2013

Can He Keep It In His Pants and Out of Our Texts? [Ask A Dude]

Why do guys send pictures of their dicks? It's not like I've asked for this. It's not like I WANT to see him with his jeans around his ankles and his business in his hand. I know men have extremely fragile egos and I don't want to hurt feelings, but come on.

Feb 4, 2013

How Do I Tell My Friend Her BF Might Be Gay? [Ask A Dude]

Aside from being extremely flamboyant and touchy-feely with other men, she mentioned to me when she was drunk one night that they haven't had sex in almost a year. I'm not really sure what I'm allowed to say in a scenario like this, and I have no evidence aside from my strong suspicions.