Advice From a Dude

Jun 24, 2013

Can We Be More Than Slambuddies? [Ask A Dude]

I got to a point when I wanted sex, but not with someone I wasn't dating...and he didn't want to date me. Finally I caved. So now we're having sex but he's not cuddling anymore. Sometimes I feel like we really are friends and sometimes I just feel like a slambuddy.

Jan 23, 2013

What’s a Girl To Do About The Guy Who Keeps Coming Back? [Ask A Dude]

I've been FWB'ing with someone for a while. Over the course of the years we've known each other, we'll occasionally have a huge blow-out argument, after which we go our separate ways. This will last a few months, and then slowly and certainly this guy comes back.

Dec 12, 2012

How Do I Get Him a Gift Without Making Him Think I'm Asking to Get Serious? [Ask A Dude]

With the holiday season upon us, I wanted to know if it would be appropriate to get him a gift. I wasn't planning on setting up a formal "gift exchange" dinner or anything, but every now and again I'm in a store and see something that makes me think, "Ahh, he would love this!"

Do Guys Still Care About Leg Hair? [Ask A Dude]

The weather is getting a bit colder, so I’m getting a bit lazier and . . . during the winter months I tend to skimp on shaving my old gams. Would the guy I’m dating be freaked out by my beastly legs or is it NBD?

Nov 28, 2012

How Do I Tell Him I'm Bored In Bed? [Ask A Dude]

My boyfriend is super sweet and we’ve been together for over a year now and I feel really bad even thinking this, but he has gotten kind of boring in bed. I wonder if he is less attracted to me or if I’m just bored of his usual moves.

Nov 21, 2012

Is He Saying I'm Ugly? [Ask A Dude]

The guy that I am dating, like actually dating (none of that ‘it’s complicated’ business) does this really annoying thing. I think it’s mean, hurtful and degrading. He points out other girls’ flaws all the time. He’ll say something about a girl’s flat chest or crooked teeth. What’s worse is that the stuff he points out are often things that I am self-conscious about. I feel like he is making fun of me when he makes fun of them. Does he think that I’m ugly?

Nov 14, 2012

Nov 7, 2012

What If His Friends Hate Me? [Ask A Dude]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and every time we go out with his friends I can tell they don’t like me. These dudes are giving me some serious side-eye and are super passive aggressive.

Sep 26, 2012

Will He Cheat On Me If He's Done It Before? [Ask A Dude]

There’s a guy (always is, right?), and he’s really cool and all, and we get along really great together. We’ve hung out a bunch of times, but here’s the thing: he’s got a reputation for cheating. I mean, I know from friends that he’s cheated on at least 2 girls before.

Sep 19, 2012

Does Online Dating Make The First Date Feel More Important? [Ask A Dude]

I know a bunch of other girls who’ve ended up in relationships with guys online, but I think the problem for me is there seems to be a lot of pressure on the first date. It feels like you’re trying to imagine yourself in a relationship with him after spending all of 2 hours knowing him drinking at a bar. Why are people getting so relationship obsessed over one date? Are they or is this just something I keep feeling like I’m pressured to buy into?

Sep 12, 2012

Did He Play Me Or Did I Play Myself? [Ask A Dude]

In the three years I've known him we've gotten fairly close and I've begun to fall for him. He seems to enjoy snuggling against me, tickling me, etc. Also he has the habit of being over-protective of me. I took this to mean that he was attracted to me, too.

Sep 5, 2012

Orientation Guys, What's The Deal? [Ask A Dude]

So over orientation last week, I met this super cutey and since we’re both new to the school and the city and everything we kind of made it a point to hang out a lot.

Aug 29, 2012

Do I Choose The Sex or The Companion? [Ask A Dude]

So now here’s the problem: I’ve got these two guys that I’m kinda going back and forth with. One totally gets me, he’s all about keeping what we have casual and not asking for anything, and somehow we’ve ended up to the point where I’m totally falling for him.

Aug 22, 2012

Can I Date My Ex's BFF? [Ask A Dude]

I crushed on his friend a little, but I was convinced that my Ex was the one for me. Now that we have broken up (he dumped me and was apparently flirting with other girls), I regret not choosing his friend.